Lives: Southeast Washington, D.C.
Sometimes we don't even have a winter here -- but this year we've had some 19-degree days. It's all about self-care for me in the winter. I wear long johns, an insulated jacket, gloves, hats, and face masks. If it's really cold, I might wear goggles to protect my eyes, or they tear up. Foodwise, I do a lot of soup and chili. I like chicken noodle -- especially if someone makes it for me! In the morning, I do grits with butter and salt, just like my country great-grandma made it. I do struggle with isolation in the winter months, feeling like I'm alone. I'll get depressed. People might see a smile on my face, but I'm not that OK. So, I see a counselor. I also have people who reach out to me, both my biological family and my transmen brothers. They'll knock on my door to say, "We're going out -- come with us." We went to karaoke and had fun. It's good just to get out of the house.
*Tim Murphy has been living with HIV since 2000 and writing about HIV activism, science and treatment since 1994. He writes for and has been a staffer at POZ, and writes for the New York Times, New York Magazine, Out Magazine, The Advocate, Details and many other publications. He is also the author of the NYC AIDS-era novel *Christodora.