My name's John. I'm 49 years old. I'm a lawyer by profession. I now live in beautiful San Francisco, California, after spending a long time on the east coast. I was diagnosed in 2004, so I've been positive for something like five years.

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Implausible Deniability: Sex and Self-Deception Among HIV-Negative Men -- A Blog Entry by fogcityjohn

"I half expected him to tell me he was positive. Instead, N told me softly, 'I'm negative.' 'And I'm poz,' I replied without missing a beat. His expression froze, so I asked, 'Is that a deal breaker?' He responded, 'It has been in the past.'"

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Dis Honesty: A Blog Entry by fogcityjohn

It's another first date for fogcityjohn -- and another occasion for him to wonder why he's so quick to disclose his HIV status so early. "As soon as the words were out of my mouth ... I could see it was a deal breaker," he writes. "Alex's discomfort ...

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A Question of Priorities: A Blog Entry by fogcityjohn

Why has HIV/AIDS fallen off the agendas of most mainstream LBGTQ advocacy organizations? "HIV/AIDS used to be an existential threat to our community, and we treated it as such," fogcityjohn laments. In this article, he looks at what several organizat...

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With Friends Like These: Dr. Monica Sweeney's Gift to the Religious Right -- A Blog Entry by fogcityjohn

The conversation about "It's Never Just HIV" -- the controversial HIV awareness campaign launched by the New York City health department -- is far from over, blogger Fogtcityjohn writes. In the latest development, a right-wing conservative politician...

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Stigma as Prevention: The Homophobia Behind a PSA -- A Blog Entry by fogcityjohn

Adding his thoughts to the mountain of criticism against New York City's "It's Never Just HIV" ad campaign, blogger fogcityjohn writes, "The message seems to be that, even if you're young and beautiful, it absolutely sucks to be gay." In this blog en...

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Breaking the Silence? A Blog Entry by fogcityjohn

As an action-packed year for the HIV/AIDS community draws to a close, takes stock of 2010 in a new series of articles, "HIV/AIDS Year in Review: Looking Back on 2010 (and Ahead to 2011)." Read the entire series here.

The end of 2010 brin...

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Making Darkness Visible: Seeing the Relationship of Laws, Homophobia, and Suicide -- A Blog Entry by fogcityjohn

And because no breeze stirs this caldron, because there is no escape from this smothering confinement, it is entirely natural that the victim begins to think ceaselessly of oblivion.

-- William Styron, Darkness Visible: A Memoir of Madness

I ha...

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Living Memory: A Blog Entry by fogcityjohn

When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.

-- Kahlil Gibran

I recently marked an anniversary. Unfortunately, it wasn't the kind you celebrate. No, it wa...

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Mask, or, Losing Face: A Blog Entry by fogcityjohn

"[F]or to lose one's face is to lose one's spirit, which is truly the 'face', the dancing mask, the right to incarnate a spirit ... It is the veritable persona which is at stake ..."

Marcel Mauss

You almost certainly wouldn't notice it if you saw...

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"You Can't Handle the Truth!": Gay Men and HIV Education

In 1994, psychologist Walt Odets published a scathing critique of what was then called "AIDS education." Writing in the now-defunct AIDS & Public Policy Journal, Odets examined the approaches used to educate gay men about HIV, and to put it mildly, h...

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