Taking Your First HIV Med With the Encouragement of a Loved One

Part of the Series My First Pill

Taking Your First HIV Med With the Encouragement of a Loved One

I lost my partner to AIDS in 1994. I was still negative. I volunteered for AIDS organizations and lost so many friends. I saw all the experimental medications come and the toll it took on all their lives. So the day I was diagnosed as positive I just became numb. I was numb for about 2 weeks.

Then I heard that the CDC was going to make the recommendation that everyone diagnosed as positive regardless of T-cell count should start medication immediately. Well, my T-Cell count had dropped that month from 650 to 475. I guess it was time to start anyway.

I kept reading and researching medications and playing eenie-meenie-minie-mo with them all. I became overwhelmed. A month went by and my T-cells dropped again to 375 and viral load soared into the thousands. I started having really bad night sweats. The doctor was really concerned and really pushed me to get on medication. I chose Complera, and was sent to the pharmacy to get my script.

I went home and decided to take them with my evening meals. Every night for 3 nights I tried to take the pill. I would open the bottle and stare at it or hold it in my hand. My dinner would get cold and I wouldn't eat. The pill was smaller than some of the vitamins I used to take so the physical action of taking it wasn't the situation.

How could I take a pill that would seal my fate? I would die like my partner and so many friends and people I knew. If I took that pill, I would be admitting there was something wrong with me. The fourth night, a friend came over for dinner. How could I take the pill in front of him? Tears were rolling prior to dinner and then he arrived. We sat down and I heard my partner's voice in my head, "Just take the damn pill will you!"

I did. That was 5 years ago now and I have not missed a dose yet. I have never had one side effect listed in the huge list of possible side effects. My T-cell count is over 750 each visit, and viral load is undetectable. I empathize with people who have a hard time taking that first pill.

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