Quality Over Quantity; Everything Is Temporary

Then there's a time
Seems like you'll never find
Someone willing to love you
Keep on lookin', you'll soon discover

A mighty love
Will sometimes makes you weep and moan
A mighty love
You sit all day by the telephone
Cause you're all alone
You need a mighty love.

The Spinners

When I was a child growing up on the Southside of Jamaica, Queens (SSJQ), I pretty much got along with everybody I came in contact with. It was a rough enough neighborhood, especially looking from the outside in. Being a pretty good athlete helped me to be accepted by my peers. In my heart, I was fearful of confrontation, so I'm glad to not have had to do a lot of fighting.

Basketball and baseball were my best and favorite sports. I am so grateful for the lessons learned playing on different teams, as well as friends and memories created from playing sports. Thank God for the leagues and clubs that were available to keep us busy enough that we did not engage in the kind of random violence that our youth are involved with, like with the so-called "knockout game." We were far from angels, but that kind of random violence is sick. I wonder if there were more jobs, community centers, and more hope available to our youth today, would there be as many mental health issues and sexually transmitted diseases as they are now?

Well, maybe STDs would still be a problem, because sex was my other favorite sport. I'm sure sex is as popular as ever now, especially with young people. When there is little else to do, we engage in more sex for sure. When I was younger, I wanted to try as much as I could sexually. The quantity of friends and sex seemed more important at the time, but in this game of life I have learned that the quality of both means more to me now. Having acquired HIV at the prime of my life, age 28, I have had to confront life very differently. I have no way of knowing whether or not this evolution would have happened otherwise, but I do know my situation is not unique. In fact, anyone who is breathing and alive today should be asking themselves some of the same questions I have had to, whether they are HIV positive or not. Question number one; is my lust for life more important than the quality of what I have or am building? Can I be present enough to not act solely on that lust, or redirect it in a more productive way?

I am extremely blessed in that the quality of my friends and associates is very good. If we put some effort into being the kind of person that will attract positivity, we can almost expect to experience the law of attraction in a positive way. We may not be able to determine the amount of time we will spend on the planet, but with some effort, we can influence the quality of life we are living. For me, that quality is measured, in part, by my ability to balance the amount of time spent in prayer and meditation, sharing love with others, and taking care of myself. I am very grateful for the time I have been blessed to live. I intend to make the best of my life, and I appreciate all OF YOU who read RISE.

Recently, a friend shared with me that it's important to remember that not everyone is surrounded by large, wonderful families. Some of us have problems during the holidays and sometimes are overcome with great sadness when we remember the loved ones who are not with us. Many people have no one to spend these times with and are besieged by loneliness. We all need caring thoughts and loving prayer right now.

May I ask my friends wherever you might be, to kindly copy, paste, and share this message in this paragraph on your Facebook page, and other social media, to give a moment of support to all those who have family problems, health struggles, job issues, worries of any kind and just need to know that someone cares. Do it for all of us, for nobody is immune.

I hope to see this on the walls of all my friends just for moral support. I know some will! I did it for a friend and you can too! It is time to RISE!

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