Pornstar worries


Hello Dr Bob, How are you? Do you think Obama will win?

Anyway to my question which is two parted.

I stupidly agreed to help out an up and coming Porn Actress from the UK. She gave me covered oral which I'm not to worried about, but it is the next bit which has got me in a high state of anxiety. I entered her anus with a condom on, but a combination of her putting loads of lube up her anus and me not being able to maintain a erection I managed to somehow insert a couple of fingers into her anus. My fingers were covered in lube and i suppose anal fluids. Knowing that I wouldn't be able to cum I pulled out and took the condom off, with the same hand that touched the condom and had the lube and anal fluids I masturbated my penis to orgasm over her bottom.

When I realised what I had done I ran to the bath and washed my hands and penis with soapy water, this was after say a minute. Would this be classed as unprotected anal? What about my hands entering her anus? I had no unbroken skin on my hands. This woman is a escort as well, and allows clients to cum in her mouth and swallows, so she has a high chance of being HIV+.

I spoke to a sexual health counsellor and a UK national HIV/AIDS helpline and they both said low risk. BUt I know you are the true expert - what are my chances Dr Bob?

This brings me to the second part of my question, 24 hours later I had protected sex with my ex girlfriend but I gave her oral sex, deep french kissing and she sucked my penis unprotected - no cum, just some pre cum in her mouth. If I was seroconverting from the episode above could I have infected her in the timeframe of 24 hours?

I searched the archives and could not find an answer to the secound part of my question!! Please help, I'm scared to death of having ARS in a week or two!!

Yours faithfully, Reluctant Pornstar


Hello Reluctant Porn star,

So you were helping out an up-and-coming porn actress by allowing her to give you a blowjob and anal sex??? Hmm . . . OK, if you say so.

Your fears of acquiring HIV are unwarranted. Masturbation, even using the same hand that took the condom off and fingers that did some backdoor exploring, is not considered to be an HIV-transmission risk. Similarly, your fears of transmitting HIV are equally unwarranted. To begin with, you can't transmit something you don't have. And you don't have HIV. Second, you had "protected sex" with your porn-starlet. HIV cannot permeate intact latex. No way. No how. So, assuming the latex condom was used properly and did not fail, your HIV risk would be essentially nonexistent. (Oral sex carries only a very minimal risk of HIV transmission/acquisition). And kissing, well just remember the lyrics to that old song, "A kiss is just a kiss . . . as times goes by."

If you remain "scared to death," despite my reassurances, get an HIV test at the three-month mark to put your unwarranted worries permanently to rest.

Play safe and you'll stay safe, even if you're playing with the next Linda Lovelace.

Dr. Bob