I had an encounter with a sex worker (SW) a week ago where the lady gave me a blowjob. After that, I fingered her and my fingers were wet from her vagina. She licked them and then after that we kissed (not french kissing as I recall). She continued afterwards giving me the blowjob (I didn't cum in her mouth).
4 days after that, I started having very very liquid diarrhea and by now, it is a bit better (not as bad as before at all). I also have one small ulcer in my mouth.
Am I at risk from having HIV? I didn't have intercourse with her (no insertion at all). I am really becoming paranoid and unable to function as usual. I want to take the test but I am waiting for 3 weeks more. Is the 4 weeks test good enough in my case?
Please reply and put my mind to rest.
There is no risk in your experience for HIV, however there is for many of the other sexually transmitted infections, such as herpes. This could explain the ulcer in your mouth. My recommendation would be to follow up with your health care provider for a full STI screening and ask that they include an HIV test. Again no risk for HIV but everyone should know their HIV status.
Here are a few items that you should know about HIV transmission for future reference:
HIV transmission can only occur when there is a direct and prolonged exposure to body fluids, semen, vaginal fluid, blood or mother to child through breast feeding. This most commonly occurs through unprotected vaginal or anal sex and sharing of needles. Casual contact, sharing utensils, drinking after someone, etc are not way for HIV transmission to occur. If you go to this link HIV101 it will take you to our page that talks about the ways in which HIV is and is not transmitted.
The risk of HIV transmission with oral sex is extremely low. It is even reasonable to state that for the person receiving oral sex (that is on whom oral sex is being performed) the risk of acquisition of the virus is practically zero. For the person placing his or her mouth on someone else's genitals, the risk may be slightly higher but still very very low. Theoretically, obvious cuts, wounds, sores, or infections in the mouth could raise this risk. But relatively speaking this is still considered to be a low-risk sexual activity as the mouth is not a hospitable place for the HIV virus. Please note that other sexually transmitted infections are readily spread via oral contact and you may need to be checked for these. Also there have been no known cases of anyone becoming HIV positive from fingering alone.
Be well and stay safe, Shannon