Dear Doctor Robert,
I'm a 27 year old virgin from Greece. About four months ago, I went to a strip-bar and a female girl from Rumania danced for me. Near the end, she took off her panties and offered me her vagina (and I enjoyed it with my tongue). This happened for a few minutes. Afterwards, I felt really scared, because I had foolishly neglected the chance that I may become infected with HIV. It's been four months since then, and I haven't made any blood tests yet, because I want to go after 6 months of the encounter taking place.
For the first weeks, I haven't experienced fever or sore throat, but I have diarrhoea once or twice every two weeks (but then again, I had diarrhoea even BEFORE that incident, and for quite some time).
Also, during one night (and only one night) I awoke and I had a strong rash in many places of my body (mainly in my back and my neck) that lasted about 5 minutes, and afterwards I fell asleep again.
Note that I haven't made sex yet, and that was the first time I had oral sex of some sort (lame I know, but that's not the point right now).
So, the bottom line is: On a scale of 1 to 10, how much should I be worried? And should I wait 6 more weeks for the definite blood test, or should I go right away?
Oh, and how often do HIV victims experience no symptoms at all for the whole "window" period?
Thanks for reading,
A "female girl???" Hmmm . . . sounds like the department of redundancy department.
I've addressed the subject of cunnilingus many times before in this forum and addressed all the questions you have raised. Just have a look in the archives! I'll repost a question below as an example.
The bottom line, Nikos, is that your HIV risk is negligible at best. Since you are now breaking your 27-year dry spell, I suggest you spend some time reviewing the wealth of information about HIV risk, HIV transmission and safer sexual practices in the archives of this forum and on its related links. Sex is supposed to be fun, not anxiety provoking, OK?
Be safe and you'll stay well.
Tonsils and Oral Sex (CUNNILINGUS)
Sep 30, 2006
You are definitely a person admirable character. I have just donated $50 to your wonderful foundation. I wish I could afford more at this time, but money is very tight on my end with my graduate school studies. Like everyone else, I have a question for you.
I performed unprotected oral sex on a woman of unknown status about 2 weeks ago. I purposely avoided unprotected intercourse because of its risk. However, I am know concerned about this oral sex episode. I have recently developed enlarged tonsils and my tests for sterp have been negative. I have a sore throat which is understandable, but no other symptoms. I have tried to use your past answers of similar exposures to help ease my anxiety. But there is just something about hearing it directly from you.
Have you ever seen a person with whose only exposure was unprotected oral sex on a woman test positive for HIV?
I hope that your good health will continue to remain. I promise I shall make another donation later on this year.
Response from Dr. Frascino
Unprotected cunnilingus on a woman of unknown HIV serostatus carries only a negligible risk for HIV transmission. (See below.)
To answer your specific question, nope!
Thanks for your kind comments and donation.
Stop worrying! If you can't stop worrying, get tested at the three-month mark, but do realize the primary reason to do so would be to put your unwarranted fears permanently to rest, OK?
Good luck. Stay well.
Oral Sex and HIV
Feb 18, 2006
i have just stumbled on this site, and would like your opinion, on jan 1st 2006 i had protected vaginal sex with a prostitute, but i performed unprotected oral sex on her, before i performed she whiped her virgina and when performing oral sex i could taste no secretion or menstural blood, immediately afterwards i realised what a rediculous thing i had done and became increasingly paranoid about the possibility of HIV infection, on the 3rd of Jan i started on 28 PEP course, what do you think my chances of having HIV are, alot of other sites i have been on say Cunnilingus is Low risk, some say no risk, quantatively what is this risk? i am due to go for an HIV test at the end of march and am petrified of the result, many thanks
Response from Dr. Frascino
She "whiped her virgina?" Would that be "whiped" as in whipped or "whiped" as in wiped? And would that be "virgina" as in Virginia or "virgina" as in vagina? I would assume "whipped" and "Virginia" are out, because nothing kinky ever happens in that state. The risk of HIV transmission from cunnilingus is extremely low. I'll post a question from the recent archives that addresses this problem. (See below.)
I do not believe PEP was warranted for your potential exposure. There is no reason to be "petrified" of your HIV test results. I see nothing but good news heading in your direction. I suggest you begin practicing your WOO-HOOs!
Cunnilingus - no blood, good oral healt Jan 12, 2006
Dear Dr. Bob,
Just sent a donation of 200 dollares - thanks fo you help - people need it and now i feel i need too
You had answered a number of questions related to the risk of cunnilingus. I was engaged in one 2 months ago but no blood was involved and my oral helth is ok. The experience was with the mistress and when i asked her afterwards she told me she is DD free .What concerns me that you mentioned once that the probability of getting HIV in this case 0.5 per 10000 cases. doest it mean that there is 1 possible transmission in 20000 cases. a number of cunnilinguses given is much more then that and there are no documented cases so far. How do these 2 things reconcile?
I am still concerned although i understand i should not be....you know...
How is it possible generally to get HIV via giving cunnilingus in case when there is no blood and my oral health seems to be in order. Appreciate your reply.
I have another general question re the symptoms...
It seems that in case there are symptoms there are ususally more then one should be present based on the statistics you posted earlier.
Appreciate your reply
Thanks for the help
Response from Dr. Frascino
The estimated statistical per-episode risk of 0.5 per 10,000 exposures for unprotected oral intercourse refers to fellatio (oral sex performed on a man), not cunnilingus. The cunnilingus figure would be much less. In fact, it's so small it's difficult to quantitate. There are only very few cases of HIV transmission resulting from performing oral sex on a woman that have been reported to the CDC. Considering we've been monitoring this epidemic for over two decades, that alone is excellent evidence that the HIV-transmission risk through cunnilingus is extremely low. There are a number of scientific hypotheses as to why this is true, but the bottom line remains the same: it's an extremely low-risk activity. (Note: the risk increases if the woman is menstruating and/or the person performing cunnilingus has oral mucous membrane sores, abrasions or inflammation.)
Regarding your second question, ARS can be quite variable in scope, number and severity of symptoms. However, yes, generally more than a single symptom is present.
Thanks for your generous donation!