Congrats to those of you who have weathered another year with HIV at a time when there are medicines and lots of scientific information to preserve our lives.
Do you ever stop to think, "Why am I going on with my life after HIV infection?"
Do you question if you'll ever be in a relationship with someone that accepts you and all your baggage? Just because you have HIV doesn't mean that someone without it won't love you.
Are you wondering how I would know this after being out of the dating scene and in prison for more than two decades?
Over the years, I have become friends with other HIV-positive inmates who have been released and are now happily married. Some even have children. Besides these people crossing my path, I still believe in love.
I don't have a woman to call my own, and I've never been married, but I have faith that she is out there somewhere. Having HIV for over 25 years, it is my hope to be in a loving relationship one day.
When I was younger, I had a vision of the "perfect woman" for me. I grew up in the '80s, and I thought that the types of women I wanted to be with were types like Heather Locklear, Cindy Crawford and others like them. They were nice to look at, and I thought that was what would make me happy. Being a shallow and inexperienced teenager I thought I had known everything.
How many of you knew it all as a teen?
Now that I'm older, I just want to be with someone who loves me. A woman who will make me a better man because she sees things in me I can't see and wants to bring out.
Want to know who I think is sexy?
Ever watch the television show "Mike and Molly"? I think the sexiest woman on that show hands down is Melissa McCarthy. Yup, I like them thick!
How much fun in real life do you think she has with her husband? I'll bet he is proud of his wife and her accomplishments. Plus he gets to cuddle with a voluptuous woman every night she's home. The closest thing to a model that would have my undivided attention would be in a Lane Bryant catalog.
Does anyone who grew up in the '80s remember Zapp Band & Roger?
They do a tune called "More Bounce to the Ounce" and that would be the anthem for the woman I'd like. I think that Sir-Mix-A-Lot hit the nail on the head too with "Baby Got Back."
Are there any country music fans reading this?
Have you heard of an artist named Kelsea Ballerini? She does this song called "Dibs", and it is very sweet. There is a line in that song that says, "If you got a heart that ain't afraid to love, ain't afraid to break."
For so long I was closed off to the idea of my heart getting broken, and I have lived a very lonely existence. Being honest with myself I am longing to be loved and I will give everything I am to a woman knowing full well that one day she could break my heart. I will not give up!
This is the time of year for lovers who get all mushy with greeting cards, flowers and other romantic gestures. Why is it that only one day a year on Feb. 14 is earmarked for showing our significant other how much we appreciate them?
You love them all year long, so why just show it one day by going all out for dinners, dancing and whatever else you can afford?
Loving gestures can happen every day. I have heard several women and men say that it is the little things that mean the most to them. Do the dishes. Say please and thank you. Take out the garbage. Ask your spouse what you can do to help make their lives a little easier? See, it is the little things that effects people the most!
What are some other examples that you can give me to make my future relationship successful?
I want to wish everyone single, dating, married, straight or LGBTQ to have a beautiful Valentines Day! Please don't take your significant other for granted. Honor them every day because you love them every day!