Am I Negative, When All His Other Partners Are Pos?
My son's father passed away from AIDS last month; he never even
told me he was HIV positive. He had infected many women and never
took any of his meds. His previous partners have come forward stating
that they are now HIV positive, but I have been testing negative.
My question is: Why do all of his other partners have HIV, but I don't?
to Commit to a Partner With HIV
My partner found out he had HIV a month into our relationship.
We have now been together eight months and I am still negative. I
have no concerns about myself anymore, but I'm afraid that he won't
take care of himself and I'll lose him. I really do love him and could
see myself staying with him, but I'm afraid to commit to someone I
may lose. If he takes care of himself, how much longer can he live
Risk and a Devastating Brain Disorder
For the past seven years, I've been in a wonderful relationship
with an HIV-negative woman, but in 2000 she was diagnosed with Huntington's
disease, a devastating degenerative brain disorder. We love each other
very much, but she's grown afraid that she'll contract HIV from me,
and our sex life has come to a complete stop. What can I do to make
her feel comfortable with us having sex?
& INSURANCE ISSUES
American in Japan, With Expiring U.S. Health Insurance
I'm an HIV-positive U.S. citizen currently living and working
in Japan. I had both Japanese health insurance
and U.S. medical insurance until yesterday, when I turned 23 and the medical
insurance I'd been receiving from my parents' employer expired --
meaning that I would have no insurance if I returned to the United
States. In exactly one year, my contract here in Japan will end
and I will move back home. I have the option of continuing my old
U.S. benefits under my parents' group coverage, but I don't want
to pay 12 months of expensive American medical insurance that I
can't even use while I'm in Japan. Is there any way I can get temporary
coverage or continuation coverage when I move back to the United
States, instead of having to pay for two health insurance programs
I Stop My Life Insurance Company's Yearly Review?
I've been receiving a monthly payment from MetLife for the
past three years. Every year I am subjected to a review that my
doctor has to fill out and send to them. I think it is unnecessary
for me to have to do this every year since I have AIDS and the condition
will not improve unless there is a cure for HIV. Even Social Security
disability doesn't require a yearly review, and I receive three
times the amount of money from them as from MetLife. Is there any
way to have the review waived?
for "No Health Questions" Life Insurance
I tried to apply for life insurance online, but when I tried
to do so with Physcians Life Insurance Company, I was told I
needed to talk with a representative. How do I handle that? If I
insist on a policy "with no health questions," that would
be a big red flag. But to come out and say I'm doing this because
I'm HIV positive is the biggest red flag of all.
About Lithium and ECT for Depression
I have been on HIV meds for four years with very good results, but
I have a significant problem with depression. I saw a psychiatrist
this week who suggested a change from my current antidepressant (an
SSRI) to venlafaxine (Effexor) boosted by lithium. He also suggested electroconvulsive therapy (ECT) as an option
if things got worse. I'm worried by the thought of lithium and ECT
-- particularly the risk of memory loss from the latter. Should I
Does Mild Diffused Atrophy Mean?
I was diagnosed in 1996 with mild diffused atrophy of the frontal
lobe. How common is this in people with AIDS? Does it mean that my
brain is impaired and that I will never be able to function normally?
Antidepressants, No Luck. What Next?
I've had no luck with six different antidepressants, from sertraline (Zoloft) to
citalopram (Celexa) to venlafaxine (Effexor). I am a type-A personality who's been pos for more
than 20 years without any illness, but for the last three years I've
had no motivation to do much of anything. It is ruining my life. What
direction should I take next?
HAART Works Like a Charm, Should It Be Put on Hold?
A 21-year-old friend of mine was treated for HIV using the "hit
hard, hit early" theory. He's doing extremely well: undetectable
viral load, CD4 count of 1,000, with no side effects. My question
is: Does it make any sense for him to stop treatment, or should he continue
as long as the meds are working?
Diagnosis, Two Doctors, Three Initial HAART Combos
I have two doctors, both of whom think I should start treatment --
but they have different opinions on what regimen I should start with.
I was infected last November; my CD4 count has slowly dipped to 357
and my viral load is now at 468,000. One doc says I should take either
Kaletra (lopinavir/ritonavir) with two NRTIs or efavirenz (Sustiva,
Stocrin) with Trizivir (AZT/3TC/abacavir). The other says I should
take efavirenz and Truvada (tenofovir/FTC). Who's right?
Risks, Drug by Drug
Can you compare the degrees to which each HIV drug causes lipodystrophy
of Lymph Node Removal on HIV Progression
I'm HIV positive and recently had two swollen lymph nodes removed.
Is there evidence that having these nodes removed will affect the
progression of HIV disease?
Old for Hepatitis C Treatment?
I'm a 71-year-old female with hepatitis C. I think I was infected
in 1959 when I had several blood transfusions, but I wasn't diagnosed
until 1992, when hepatitis C testing became available. In 1990, a
liver biopsy showed minimal liver damage. In view of my age, do
you think I should start hepatitis C treatment?
SEX & HIV TRANSMISSION
Do They Test the U.S. Blood Supply?
If it takes up to six months to detect HIV and hepatitis C in your
blood, how is the U.S. blood supply kept safe from both viruses? Do
they have a particular test that detects the viruses earlier than
standard tests do?
How Safe Is Oral Sex?
My wife, who is HIV positive (I'm negative), loves oral sex,
but we're both worried about whether it's safe for me. I know studies
say the risk of transmission through oral sex is virtually zero, but
should we be concerned about the "theoretical" risk even
if there are no documented cases of clear-cut infection through a
man performing oral sex on a woman?
and Increased Risk of HIV Infection
I'm a gay man in my 20s. Though I'm HIV negative and always use a
condom for anal sex, I was diagnosed with quinolone-resistant gonorrhea
after a recent hookup. My doc says that, if the guy was also HIV positive, I'm five times more likely to get HIV because of the gonorrhea
infection. Is there anything I can still do to prevent myself from
becoming HIV positive? And what about the future -- what else can
I do to avoid infection. Abstinence? Oral sex with a condom?
Do I Know I Have HIV? It's a Long Story
I'm absolutely convinced I'm HIV positive, and I know I got it
through a handjob. Let me tell you why ...
Shaving and HIV Risk
I'm a guy, and before sex I always shave my nether region. The
last girl I had sex with died a few weeks later of a drug overdose
-- and one of her friends told me she'd previously slept with a person
who had HIV. Do you think she may have had HIV too, and I got it from
her because I used a razor on my pubic area before sex?
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