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Telling A Lover About Herpes

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Telling lovers

Posted by Anonymous, 4 Replies
I was so touched by Candy's letter I wanted to reply. It is such a dilemna. I have decided to try finding someone wo is HIV positive as well. The problem is finding any spport groups for hetrosexual men and women. At the risk of turning this forum... Read more »

ADVICE!? Telling/Not Telling. I feel I'm betraying

Posted by TheGoodLife, 5 Replies
I'm newly diagnosed. Two weeks in. I'm a strong-minded, stable professional who took a tailspin from this but I feel myself gaining strength. I want to tell my sister, but I don't know how... and I am so scared for a few reasons.

1. I'm the strong... Read more »

My lover is a hemophiliac

Posted by Anonymous, 2 Replies
I have been with my fiancee for over 5 years. He is a
hempophelliac and I never knew. He always lied to me, my family
and our friends as to why he was sick. His brother died about 10
years ago from a "Genetic Liver Disorder" or so that was what
every... Read more »

Screwed by Uncle's lover with AIDS

Posted by Anonymous, 1 Reply
Screwed by Uncle's lover with Aids Can you believe this? My
uncle's lover, guardian and beneficiary of my uncle's estate,
leaves the fortune in turn to my father and my father's family as
my uncles had agreed. Only he sets up a trust in which the
for... Read more »

My lover is HIV+

Posted by feelinghelpless, 6 Replies
Hello, About ten months ago my lover told me he was HIV+. At the time, he was very sick and in the hospital from an infection. I basicly took care of him
and when he came home from the hospital, he moved in with me for several months. We really... Read more »
Ask the Experts

Desperately need advice re: friend telling former lovers

My best friend was recently diagnosed HIV+. I have tried to be a good friend - going to his appointments, researching local resources, listening to him and spending as much time as he's needed. He's accepted my help and support...
Robert J. Frascino, M.D.

Response from Robert J. Frascino, M.D.

The Robert James Frascino AIDS Foundation
Hello,You report your friend was only "recently diagnosed HIV+." This is obviously one of those live-changing experiences and a period of adjustment is to be expected as he tries to cope with his new reality as an HIV-positive individual.... Read more »

How infectuous am I? Should I tell? (DISCLOSURE, DISCLOSURE LAWS)

Dear Dr. Bob,I am a women and found out I am HIV positive some 10 months ago. I'm happy and healthy, and open about my status to my friends, family, and colleagues.I'm not on medication, but my viral load has remained undetectable at all...
Robert J. Frascino, M.D.

Response from Robert J. Frascino, M.D.

The Robert James Frascino AIDS Foundation
Hello,Disclosure is always a sensitive and challenging issue for us "virally enhanced" folks. Rather than deciding not to disclose, perhaps you should take this opportunity to educate these sorry sods! I should also point out there are now... Read more »

Afraid to commmit to poz lover

My partner found out he was positive a month into our relationship. We have now been together 8 months and I am still negative. I have no concerns about myself anymore really. But Im afraid that he wont take care of himself and I'll lose him. I...
Robert H. Remien, Ph.D.

Response from Robert H. Remien, Ph.D.

Columbia University
You are asking good questions that I do not think can be answered with any real precision. Many doctors are comfortable these days telling their patients who have recently been infected that chances are quite good that, with good care, they can... Read more »

Oral Sex w/postive lover

Hello Dr. Frascino, I appreciate all of your articles and the work that you guys do. They have helped me greatly dealing with the fact that my boyfriend is HIV postive. The only issue that I am facing now is the oral sex part. I understand that the...
Robert J. Frascino, M.D.

Response from Robert J. Frascino, M.D.

The Robert James Frascino AIDS Foundation
Hi,You are correct: unprotected oral sex does carry only a low risk for HIV transmission. If the positive partner is on effective antiretroviral therapy that drives the HIV plasma viral load to undetectable levels, the risk of any type of HIV... Read more »
U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention

Virginia: HIV Survivor Is Telling His Story With Postcards

More than 25 years after being diagnosed HIV-positive at the age of 23, Mike Bennett is helping others by telling his story through a new postcard campaign launched by the Eastern Virginia AIDS Network (EVAN). The "I am EVAN" campaign shows that... Read more »
Women Alive

To Tell or Not to Tell This is the Question

"TO BE OR NOT TO BE" was Hamlet's tumultuous inner struggle. For an HIVpositive person it is "To tell or not to tell." Who, when and how to tellfriends. family and lovers are all extremely delicate and difficult emotionaldecisions. THE FACT IS AIDS... Read more »

Telling Others You Have HIV

After being diagnosed with HIV, one of the toughest decisions you'll face is who to tell about your status. Friends, family, lovers, coworkers: How do you decide, and what's the best way to break the news? There is no "right" way to disclose your... Read more »
AIDS Project Los Angeles

Telling the Truth: An Insider's Look at Disclosure

There I sat in an HIV support group meeting in Hollywood, mentally patting myself on the back and realizing that, compared to the guy who was sharing his story at the moment, I was pretty together. It was October 1992. We'd both been diagnosed about... Read more »