How To Talk About Herpes When Dating

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let's talk about herpes!

Posted by Anonymous, 2 Replies

i never experienced herpes before all this, and i am still not sure this is what it is. painful cracks at the corners of my mouth from time to time, weird little scabby things inside my nose, now whitish looking scabby things at inner labia area and... Read more »

Up Date 3yrs on ''23 and just got tested''

Posted by xxaustin, 2 Replies

Hi everyone,
Not sure what made me come back or decide to do this, guess an update - at a low point again - help again!

When I was first diagnosed over 3yrs ago I was at a low point in my life and was not sure what to do or what was going to happen or... Read more »

Genital Herpes

Posted by Anonymous, 4 Replies

Any positive guys out there who have also dealt with genital herpes? I'm curious to know how you've handled the issue in dating and sexual situations. How do you tell someone you're HIV-positive AND have genital herpes? Read more »

ploblems dating

Posted by Anonymous

hi all,

i'd like to tell everyone that finding a site where i can talk to fellow women has done great things for me, i no longer feel alone and am very encouraged by what you write here.

am + and living in Kenya, but my biggest problem is... Read more »

is there anyone in NYC I can talk to??

Posted by ohrosiegirl, 1 Reply

Hi Newbie:
reading your post brought back soo many memories for me...I got my positive test results on June 20th, 1997. Yes it is the date you will never forget, BUT I promise you, that although your are reeling from the news right now, it WILL get... Read more »

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ME HIV/HIM HERPES

I AM DATING A MAN WHO IS HIV NEGATIVE AND HAS HERPES (ORAL AT TIMES). HE HAS NEVER MET ANYONE WHO IS HIV+ BEFORE. ALTHOUGH HE IS VERY AFFECTIONATE HE IS AFRAID TO KISS ME. HE IS AFRAID THAT DUE TO HIS HERPES HE IS AT RISK FOR HIV THRU KISSING. I...

Response from Robert H. Remien, Ph.D.

Columbia University

Your thinking about this issue is correct as far as the risk involved. And you are right to want to talk to him, without feeling like you are "talking him into" doing something he is not comfortable doing. This can be challenging.The... Read more »

Am I dangerous? Him: hiv +; me: herpes.. Afraid for him.

I'm in the beginnings of a new relationship with an hiv + man. I have herpes from my ex-husband and fear two things. One, telling him -- we haven't had sex yet -- and two, being a danger to him. I am afraid of risking his health and...

Response from Robert H. Remien, Ph.D.

Columbia University

I am not a medical doctor nor an expert in STDs. Please post your question about risk of transmission and methods of protection to another forum. However, as a psychologist with expertise in couple-related issues I strongly suggest that you find a... Read more »

just diagnoised with herpes

I have been in a monogomous relationship for the last 20 years. I've had what I thought were abrasions on my genitals once or twice a year. I don't remember when this first occured. A few months ago it dawned on me that I could have...

Response from Ryan M. Kull, C.S.W

Columbia University's Health & Related Services

Yes, it does sound like an unsettling experience, and one that might require more attention than the answers I can provide to you here. Consider calling the National Herpes Hotline at (919)361-8488 for more support and to find resources in your area... Read more »

It's in the Archives! Out of date history or ?

Hi Dr.,I found this in the archives that mirrors my current concern. Is this answer still correct or is their new scientific data and/or opinion that you would like to add?Thank you.Oral sex: Precum concern?May 20, 2007 Dear Doc, Yes, another...

Response from Robert J. Frascino, M.D.

The Robert James Frascino AIDS Foundation

Hi,Yes, the answer is still accurate. I'll also repost below some more recent information about oral sex and the risk of acquiring HIV.Dr. BobSex with someone who is HIV+ (TRANSMISSION VIA ORAL SEX, 2011)Mar 11, 2011Hi, I have recently been... Read more »

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