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Love and Relationships, Positive Style: A Video Collection

February 9, 2011

Ah, love: It's exhilarating, it's fun, it's challenging, it's terrifying, and when you're HIV positive, there are all sorts of additional issues to consider. We asked a diverse array of people -- HIV advocates, HIVers and negative folks, gays and heterosexuals, the single and partnered -- what their thoughts were on finding love when you're HIV positive.

Jack Mackenroth

"I have not found love -- but I'm looking for it, I must be honest!" Fashion designer and well-known HIV advocate Jack Mackenroth doesn't waste his time with potential partners for whom his HIV status is an issue.

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"I have not found love -- but I'm looking for it, I must be honest!" Fashion designer and well-known HIV advocate Jack Mackenroth doesn't waste his time with potential partners for whom his HIV status is an issue.

"I would like to be in love with ... somebody who will really, really accept me for who I am." Lisa D. from Pittsburgh, Pa., who's been living with HIV for more than 17 years, talks about worries that many HIV-positive women face in the dating world.

"Love hard, because you never know what you're going to get out of something unless you put yourself in it, 100 percent!" Sharita Ambrose of Austin, Texas, shares tips she's learned from working with clients at the Texas HIV Connection.

"People actually say they're OK once you've disclosed, but ... all of a sudden your phone calls are not answered." Sharon DeCuir of Baton Rouga, La., talks about some potential partners not being honest with their feelings about her HIV status.

"There can be some barriers -- intimately as well as emotionally," says Tamika, who has in the past been involved in a magnetic relationship in which she was the HIV-negative partner.

"I'm pretty settled in my ways and it's kind of tough to look for someone," says Bill from San Francisco. Bill has been HIV positive for more than 20 years. He talks about being an older, gay man in an age-conscious culture.

Brian Watson, director of programs at Transgender Health Empowerment in Washington, D.C., talks about the need to end the stigma surrounding HIV so that disclosing to potential love interests is not so taxing.

"I tell them from the first day." David I. Joseph (Chakena R. Conway), who lives in Brooklyn, N.Y., talks about always disclosing his HIV status early on to potential dating partners.

Aja Rodriguez, an HIV prevention counselor in Knoxville, Tenn., tells the story of "Matt" and "Dan," a magnetic couple she once knew in which the negative partner eventually became HIV positive.

Eyvette Tyler of Good Samaritan Project in Kansas City, Mo., talks about finding love in the support groups she facilitates -- and helps empower HIV-positive women to believe they can date again.

"It's really a matter of love and trust and respect for one another." George Bellinger Jr. is an HIV-negative man who has been in relationships with HIV-positive men, and shares his advice for those exploring a relationship with someone of a different HIV status.

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Comment by: Ms Sheila B. (Ontario) Thu., Feb. 14, 2013 at 3:53 pm EST
I am HIV to,and I do find it to go out and look for a relationship because I am scared on what that person will think of me having HIV.And how will that person accept me for who I I don't try to look for that special person.I just stay lonely by myself.
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Comment by: Lovelines (Bronx NewYork) Wed., Oct. 31, 2012 at 11:25 pm EDT
Dating for a positive person is very complex. You have to adress your situation, and look to see how much love you have for yourself. Then you will be able to evaluate a healthy relationship. The first step to meeting a person that more or less thinks and feels the same way you do about life. At that point if there is attraction, then you will know that is the right time to disclose your status. The person will react mentally and emotionally . They will continue to be there and wont change because they will respect your honesty and value the relationship that they thought knew but now know for sure.
That's true love is when a new discovery can bring matters closer..
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Comment by: John (Toronto, ON) Thu., May. 31, 2012 at 9:46 am EDT
I believed regardless of your sexuality and whether or not you are infected with HIV, in any relationship it takes two people to maintain long lasting healthy relationship. Most relationships are not perfect and I believed by understanding and accepting each other differences can help to overcome many conflicts in a relationship.
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Comment by: Tameka (Baton rouge, la) Mon., Apr. 11, 2011 at 11:08 pm EDT
I believe we should love hard and safe....and be honest with your partner from the begining...if they don't stay then they did't care in the first place and that's what you don't need..someone else lying are not being up front with you..think of it as their lost!!!!
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