Questions & Answers: Legal Questions/Custody Battle
-- Parent, Georgia USA (March 9, 2000)
AnswerFrom a health standpoint there really is nothing to worry about in terms of transmission risk to the children (presuming no sexual abuse, of course). The virus that causes HIV is actually quite fragile and does not survive well outside the human body; so, it cannot be transmitted by sharing plates, etc. It is recommended that positive individuals not allow others to use their toothbrushes, razors, etc. The reason is that blood could inadvertently get on the toothbrush (if one's gums bleed or from an open sore in the mouth) and be transmitted to someone else if they happen to have a cut or abrasion in the mouth. The reasoning is similar for razors. In fact, the health hazards go in the opposite direction. Positive individuals, because their immune systems are suppressed, are at risk for serious infection from ordinary illnesses that most people can fight off quite easily. If, for example, one of the children is exposed to chicken pox at school, the positive individual should contact their physician regarding this exposure because she may need extra medicine to avoid developing a serious form of chicken pox or shingles.
To summarize the methods of transmission:
The other important issue you raise is about custody questions. I suspect that the HIV concern is a thinly veiled attempt to utilize your sexuality against you. I highly recommend that you contact someone well-versed in these kinds of legal issues. I have some resources to suggest:
Lambda Legal Defense & Education Fund, Inc.
Other resources include:
Lesbian and Gay Parenting Support Groups in Georgia include:
This article was provided by National Pediatric and Family HIV Resource Center.