Risk Reduction in Action: A Man's Story of Sex Work (as Told to His Counselor)
November 15, 2010
For our World AIDS Day 2010 section, we wanted to capture the diversity of the AIDS community. So, we reached out to people across the world -- mostly those who have never written for us before -- and asked them to guest blog. These columns are written by people who are living with HIV, have been affected by HIV, or work in the field.
Preventing HIV is a challenge that transcends national borders. As an organization that serves Latinos, the main challenge faced by GALAEI [Gay and Lesbian Latino AIDS Education Initiative] is to target and reach Philadelphia's LGBTQ immigrants. We offer a safe place for them to learn about HIV and educate them on prevention. We work to adapt the prevention information to the unique circumstances of our community. Our outreach is sensitive to an immigrant culture where people may not identify as gay. We have learned that many male immigrants have sex with other men but don't identify with gay culture. We have adapted our tools and materials to reach them and accept them as they are. At the same time, we continue to engage in prevention work with other immigrants who self-identify as gay and for whom a gay prevention message is necessary and appropriate. We know that prevention work is only successful when it results in behavior change. We carefully monitor our message and its impact on behavior. We use these data to inform and refine our service delivery model.
The first time I had a client who was engaged in sex work was a new and enriching experience in many ways -- from learning about the dynamics, language and activities of the worker and the meaning this experience represented to him, to the questions he asked, which gave me guideline for investigating more closely the concept of sexual risk perception along with personal history as a son, brother, uncle and lover.
So there he was, first customer of the day -- I'll call him "Hunk." He was in for an HIV test, and I could tell he was nervous as he filled out the forms and prepared for the test. The idea of dropping out and leaving was there when I invited him to complete the form together if he had any concerns or questions.
When we entered to the counseling room, the first thing he said was that he was very nervous reading the questions on the form. From the risks he was engaging in, he said, he could have been exposed to HIV many times. It was then he confessed to being a sex worker.
While developing the test and waiting for the results, I talked to Hunk about his experiences, his customers and the activities they asked for. He told me he'd been surprised that they asked for different things and didn't always want to have sex, and he wondered if that was normal, because he expected every time he got a customer that they would require penetrative sex.
This was an opportunity to explain that sexuality is an open book with no end, and evolving. The tastes that people have are not just limited to certain common sexual activities, and in the search to find pleasure there are different roads they can take. There's nothing we can say is "normal" or not; and to express my views even further on that, there isn't even the need to use this term "normal."
Hunk's test result came: He was HIV negative. He was a little bit relieved, but still had questions and wanted to talk more. Because of that I continued with my own questions. I told him I was interested to know what it means to him to be a sex worker, what are their goals, and how did he end up doing this work.
I also asked him if anyone knew he was coming to be tested and if he had an emotionally close person or a family member. He told me that his family lived out of town, and that he did not have much contact with them since the death of his mother when he was a teenager. He had a poor relationship with his father and brothers, developed over many years of living far away from one another. When he first moved to this area, his artistic experience led him to travel to many places, including Europe -- until he fell in love and decided to move to the other side of the country. As he describes, the excitement was short-lived. When he got back and tried to pick up where he left off, there was no space for him in the group to which he once belonged.
He moved to a friend's house and started to look for work, with no luck at all. He didn't know where to go -- until his friend told him to do anything, including prostitution, to get money. Hunk thought about it more than a thousand times. Then one day he went walking down the street and a car pulled up beside him and offered him a ride. Hunk said no -- but then the person in the car asked if Hunk would let him suck his cock, and told him he could pay for it. Hunk smiled and said, "What about 50 bucks?" The customer actually said "Deal!"
Now Hunk had a small income from this person, who required his services up to four times a week. Hunk's friend told him he could get more than that if he promoted himself on the Internet. After doing that, proposals came without stopping. Hunk went to serve his clients at parties, in saunas, at hotels -- often the sex involved more than one person, and it was often unprotected. Hunk said he never felt the need to ask for a condom unless the customer requested it.
After getting to know Hunk better, I told him about the CRCS [Comprehensive Risk Counseling and Services] program and asked if he'd be interested in participating. After he recognized the risks he was taking, we could work together to reduce them. I also gave him a referral to testing for other STDs [sexually transmitted diseases].
When Hunk started the CRCS sessions he was quite willing to do anything to learn more and participate in other groups. We also started working on developing a risk-reduction plan, with the ultimate goal of using a condom all the time and reducing his number of sexual partners. I explained that it would be gradual and that together we could do it
The first few weeks he attempted to make a change, but nothing worked. We practiced role-playing to negotiate condom use, but in the end Hunk did whatever the customers ordered. He had to do it so as not to run out of money -- especially now that he was living alone.
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