Myths About HIV
The Myth: "People with HIV or AIDS look sick."
The Reality: Often, people who are infected with HIV do not look or feel sick. Many times, they do not even know they are infected. Taking an HIV test is the only sure way of knowing if you or someone else is infected with HIV.
The Myth: "Straight people do not get HIV."
The Reality: The majority of HIV+ people worldwide are straight (heterosexual). Men infect women, and women infect men. Risk is not about labels or categories of people. Any person who has unprotected sex or shares needles with someone who is HIV+ or whose HIV status is not definitely known is at risk for HIV.
The Myth: "I am safe because I am in a monogamous relationship (or married)."
The Reality: Because HIV+ people often do not 'look sick,' it is important to know your partner's HIV status before having unprotected sex. In an ideal world, if you and your partner remained monogamous and tested negative for HIV after the 3-month window since your last possible exposures, unprotected sex would be safe. However, if your partner was HIV+ before you met, if he or she is having sex outside the relationship, or if your sexually faithful partner is injecting drugs and sharing needles or drug equipment, you are at risk for getting HIV. Please do not confuse love or commitment with safety.
The Myth: "If I am over 50 years old, I am too old to get HIV; HIV is not a disease that affects my generation."
The Reality: Age does not protect you from becoming infected with HIV. In fact, people over 50 years old are getting HIV at an increasing rate and are estimated to represent half of all HIV+ Americans by 2015. Unfortunately, older adults are frequently ignored in discussions about HIV prevention and care and so are not aware that they are at risk. For more information, see our info sheet on Older Women: At Risk for HIV.
The Myth: "If I am using birth control, I can not get HIV."
The Reality: HIV can be spread during any unsafe or unprotected sex. Most forms of birth control ONLY protect against unwanted pregnancy, NOT sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) like HIV. The only birth control method that prevents pregnancy AND significantly reduces the risk of getting HIV is the condom. For tips on how to make your sex safer, see our Safer Sex info sheet.
The Myth: "I am safe because I am a virgin."
The Reality: If you have had no sexual contact at all, you are not at risk of getting HIV from sex. If you have had no sexual contact but have shared needles or drug equipment while using drugs, you are at risk. If you have had oral or anal sex, but consider yourself a 'virgin' because you have not had vaginal sex, you are still at risk. To learn more about the risks of different sexual activities, see our Safer Sex info sheet.
The Myth: "Lesbians do not get HIV."
The Reality: Women who only ever had sex with women are generally at much lower risk for getting any sexually transmitted disease. But in rare cases, they can still get HIV. One report tells of a lesbian who was infected through sharing sex toys with an HIV+ woman. Also, many women who consider themselves lesbians have had sex with men, and can get infected that way. Lesbians who use drugs and share drug injection equipment can get HIV from a needle or syringe that has been used by someone who is HIV+.
The Myth: "HIV can be spread through tears, sweat, mosquitoes, pools, or casual contact."
The Reality: HIV is only transmitted through infected blood, semen (pre-cum and cum), vaginal fluids, and breast milk. The most common ways for HIV to be transmitted are through unprotected sexual contact and/or sharing drug equipment with an HIV+ person. HIV can also be passed from mother to baby during pregnancy, birth, or breastfeeding.
The Myth: "I can not have a baby because I have HIV."
The Reality: With proper health care and HIV drugs, HIV+ women can have healthy pregnancies. There are many things you can do to prevent spreading HIV to your partner and your baby. Advances in HIV treatment have greatly lowered the chances that a mother will pass HIV on to her baby. If the mother takes proper HIV drugs, the chances of spreading HIV to the baby can be less than one in 50. For more information, see our Pregnancy and HIV and Getting Pregnant and HIV info sheet.
The Myth: "It is OK to have unprotected sex if both partners have HIV."
The Reality: Unprotected sex between two HIV+ people can lead one or both of them to be infected with a different strain or type of HIV. This is often called reinfection or superinfection. This can happen even when the partner you are with now is the person who originally infected you with HIV. HIV changes differently in each person's body over time. So the strain your partner had originally may not be the strain he or she has now. Different strains of HIV can be drug-resistant, which makes it hard for your treatment to work and for you to stay healthy. Practicing safer sex protects you from reinfection and other STDs.
The Myth: "Clinical trials are unsafe. If I enroll in a study, I will not be allowed to leave it if I do not like it."
The Reality: You are always in control. You can quit any study you participate in at any time for any reason. Some people have heard about the Tuskegee Syphilis Study, which was conducted before the government established strong ethical guidelines for how clinical trials should be done. The US government now has strict rules and regulations that all government and drug company researchers must follow to protect participants in clinical trials. (See The Well Project info sheets on clinical trials).
Myths about HIV are very harmful. They can cause you to be afraid of something that is not dangerous. And they can make you feel like something is not dangerous when it really is!
Be sure to learn the truth and get the facts right. Sometimes seemingly well-informed or well-meaning people give out wrong information. If you have a question about HIV, talk to your health care provider, your local AIDS organization, or the CDC National AIDS Hotline at 1-800-CDC-INFO (232-4636).
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