Beyond Monogamy: Lessons From Long-Term, Non-Monogamous Male Couples
June 22, 2010
We would like to get the word out about a study we've just completed on long-term male couples in non-monogamous relationships. This is a study we initiated, funded and conducted independently. Why?
As a long-term couple (35 years), this was a journey we had taken together -- without a roadmap. Although non-monogamy is prevalent in the gay community, information about how couples navigate this terrain is surprisingly lacking. Research hasn't been conducted, and it's a topic that seems easier for the community to avoid. Although we knew our couple friends probably weren't all monogamous, there seemed to be a norm against open discussion.
Our own experience had its ups, downs, hiccups and rewards. We had learned a lot along the way and we assumed others had as well. We were curious to hear how other couples approached things -- what had they discovered that we and others might learn from.
We have summarized the interviews into a comprehensive article that includes many verbatim quotes from study participants. We figure this is the best way to provide a picture of what is possible and the type of issues that are likely to come up. Our intended audience is couples considering opening their relationship, couples who have struggled with having a non-monogamous relationship and couples and individuals who are just curious to learn from the experience of others.
If you're wondering what typically gets shared, what happens when one person gets too involved, or the effect non-monogamy has on a couple's trust, you can visit our Web site -- or download and read the full summary of the study.
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