Bishop Kwabena Rainey Cheeks, Washington, D.C.; Diagnosed in 1985
First, look around and see that people are living well with HIV.
Then take your time to educate yourself about the virus, your health, and treatment options -- separate the facts from your fears. Definitely get a basic understanding of what your viral load and T-count are.
I know someone who was ready to go on meds and his CD4 counts were 900, which is as high as a healthy uninfected person's. I said, "What are you going on meds for?" He said his doctor wanted him to, and he agreed out of fear and ignorance. I said, "You need to find someone who specializes in HIV." He asked me to go tell that to his doctor, and I said, "Sure."
The best thing is to talk to other people who have HIV, and find a doctor who is an HIV specialist. And take care of yourself.