Brian Datcher, New Haven, Conn.; Diagnosed in 1996
My advice to someone who just found out that they're positive would be to tell them, don't feel like it's your fault that you made a mistake, and it's your fault and that life is over.
Life is not over. Seek support wherever you can get it, from somebody you can trust or confide in. Even if you don't have social support, there's other professional support you can get, either through case management or through your doctor.
If you believe in anything, try to draw from whatever you believe in. Try to use that as your strength. Take your time. Don't rush. It doesn't happen overnight. It's a process, but there's light at the end of the tunnel.