Quick Poll ![]() Tiger MedicineA Native American Woman's StoryBy Sue Saltmarsh
After searching unsuccessfully for an HIV-positive Native American woman to interview here in Chicago, the American Indian Community House in New York suggested Lisa Tiger. We spoke by phone; her honesty and willingness to share her experiences and wisdom were refreshing and inspirational. No shame A member of the Muscogee Nation and of Creek, Seminole, Cherokee, and Irish descent, Lisa Tiger has been one of the few public Native American faces of AIDS since 1992 when she was first diagnosed with HIV, advancing to AIDS in 1999. When asked how she became an advocate in the first place, she explained, "It was something that just happened. There's something about me -- things just don't embarrass me. From the moment I found out I was positive, I told everybody. My mom thought I was crazy and my uncle told me not to go around telling everybody. But, even though at first I was shocked to find out I was positive, I wasn't embarrassed or ashamed." Wilma Mankiller, first female chief of the Cherokee Nation, asked her to come to the reservation and share her story. She accepted the invitation because, she says, "There is such a need for education. And people weren't paying attention to the Red Cross coming in with their classes. They needed to hear from one of their own." She also believes that prevention efforts must be made more authentically culturally-based in order to get the message out to Native American people. Hardship
As if all that wasn't enough, she is currently in the midst of a divorce and custody battle over her five-year-old daughter, who she conceived by self-administered artificial insemination. With a deep sense of perception and a touch of sadness, she told me, "My husband is a good guy," remembering times when his support helped her face some of life's difficulties. As our phone conversation continued while she drove towards Santa Fe to find her daughter, she stated hopefully that they would work things out. Forgiveness Her ability to look past anger and sadness is the result of several life lessons. She told me that when she was 40, she gave herself 10 years to finally tell the truth about all the things she'd done in her life that she regretted or was ashamed of. In giving me some examples, I thought that if everyone were willing to be as honest about their human foibles as she was, we'd all be better off! She found that once she started with her honesty campaign, it turned out to be not as daunting as she'd thought and she was able to get it all done way before the 10-year deadline. She also gave Oprah, and some of her guests, credit for inspiring her to make a conscious effort to "be a healthier person" in many ways. She found that once she forgave herself for the mistakes she'd made, she found forgiveness of others easier. "There's no hate, no anger. Anything's forgivable." She has even found a way to replace the anger she felt towards the killers of her brother and daughter with compassion and peace. Dedication Tiger credits tenacious dedication to exercise as one of her survival secrets. "I've done a mile every day for over two years now," she proudly states. "It doesn't matter if I walk, run, or do the stationary bike as long as I do a mile of something." She found that even while at the hospital bedside of a dying friend, her commitment got her to the gym every day. There's no hate, no anger. Anything's forgiveable.
That dedication shows up in other ways as well. In addition to the public presentations she does, she admits that she "always wants to be a good friend, the one people call when they need someone to talk to" and her generosity of heart is evident in everything from her 1996 adoption of four abandoned and abused children from the Pine Ridge Indian Reservation, to the opening of her home to her ex-fiancé's cousin. She even has a plan in case she wins the lottery -- to build a fitness center on the Pine Ridge Reservation in honor of her friend, Leo Black Feather. Native American factors When asked about some of the factors that are contributing to the increase in HIV infections among Native Americans (see sidebar), women in particular, Tiger cited poverty, self-esteem issues, and alcoholism, but added that those things, along with domestic violence, accidental death, and suicide are so common in Native American communities that HIV is not at the top of the list of difficulties and dangers that tribal people must deal with. In fact, in a way, she feels that HIV has become, for her, a way out of a painful life -- it has given her purpose and through the speaking she does, sharing the story about her life and HIV/AIDS, she has found emotional healing. When asked about her philosophy of life, Tiger noted that the Native American sense of humor had often gotten her through hard times. "After all," she laughed, "you gotta go through the manure to get to the magic."
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Comment by: timothy tawalia
( Papua New Guinea)
Thu., Jul. 23, 2009 at 2:26 am EDT Hey everyone we living in this world everyone of us will get HIV or aids im crying for people of PNG because there is no care for government of Papua New Guinea I THINK THE ONLY GOD IS IN HEAVEN WILL QUIRE THE HIV I THINK . THANKS EVERYONE
Comment by: Sue Saltmarsh
(Chicago)
Wed., Jul. 15, 2009 at 6:26 pm EDT Thanks to The Body for picking up my article on Lisa Tiger, but I just wanted to say her home is Oklahoma, not New York. I did find out about her from an organization in NY, so that's probably why her home was listed as NY. Anyway, she is truly an inspiration to us all!
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