Rosita Libre de Marulanda, Educator and Past Participant in the "SAGE Is" Ad Campaign, Brooklyn, N.Y.
The craziest myth I used to hear many, many years ago was that women were liars, and that we didn't tell our prospective mates our whole sexual history. I am glad that HIV professionals eventually stopped advising people to get the story of a prospective partner because I kept on saying to them that some sexual experiences were maybe too embarrassing or too painful, and you may not want to tell someone you just met. So it was not about lying. It's about you got a right to your own story.
Professionals used to advise, "Get to know your person. Ask them where they've been, etc. " Today the advice is "Protect yourself, no matter what!" No matter what, protect yourself.