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A Facial Wasting Update
February 2, 2010 There was a lot of interest in my earlier video blog "Treating My Facial Wasting," so I wanted to give you an update by taking you along on my third visit to Dr. Gerald Pierone. The earlier blog covered my personal issues dealing with the effects of my (mild to moderate) wasting, so this video blog is a more straightforward approach to the procedure from Dr. Pierone's perspective. If you have questions about these treatments, Dr. Pierone is a contributor to TheBody.com's "Ask the Experts" forums and you can pose them directly to him.
Serosorting and Sex Clubs
January 4, 2010 Ever taken a guided tour of a gay men's sex club? Brace yourself. My friend Bill from Poz4Play.com (whose site I should warn you contains adult content) is about to do exactly that in my video blog below. When I was sleeping around, I gladly shared my HIV status because I preferred other poz partners. It meant less anxiety and probably unprotected sex, which I preferred. While my sex partner count has been reduced to 1 these days, it turns out my former sexual strategy has a name: serosorting. Seeking out partners who share your HIV status.
Drag and Gratitude
December 15, 2009 This holiday season I am grateful for people like you who view my blog and make comments of support or feedback. Thank you, my friends. This episode has nothing more to offer but to make you smile, and help you remember that "we all have gifts in our bag." To see more of my alter-ego Anita Mann, you can check out an earlier blog entry, My Alter Ego: Anita Mann.
When My T Cells Are Old and Gray
December 2, 2009 Do I have the right to complain about getting older? As my 49th birthday approaches in a couple weeks, I've been bemoaning my distant youth, and how little the gay community celebrates those of us "of a certain age." Then again, I've been blessed with surviving HIV for more than 25 years. I should be grateful. I'm of two minds about this, so I let them both battle it out in my new video blog. Along the way we'll discuss spray tans, butt padding and Donny Osmond. Have a look and let me know where you stand -- do you think living life fully means having the right to complain about it?
My Search for Meaning
May 27, 2009 When I got my first position at an HIV/AIDS organization in 1987, I thought the job would be my last. I was HIV positive, living in Los Angeles and surrounded by fear and dying. How could I possibly be here to type this blog to you now? It's a blessing and a curse of sorts. Why me, why now ... why ask why?
You Gotta Have Friends
April 22, 2009 Thirty years ago I was a skinny college freshman at the University of New Orleans who had no idea that a fellow student would become a brother to me. Charles was the first friend I told when I tested HIV positive. The value of his friendship was something I took for granted through years of drug addiction (and as lovers came and went). Somehow we've remained constants in each other's lives even as I moved around the country. And just how good a friend is Charles today? Good enough to spend hours at my house, behind a camera, quietly filming a wild night of discussion, gossip and secrets that became this video blog.
Treating My Facial Wasting
March 25, 2009 I've lived with HIV for more than 25 years and I'm grateful for that. But my face belies my good fortune. I've begun developing "the look" of a long-term survivor -- the telltale troughs in my face (facial lipoatrophy) that bear witness to my history of taking HIV medications. Fortunately, treatment for this condition is available, and my video blog takes you along as I meet the talented Dr. Gerald Pierone. Observe my consultation with him, hear answers to common questions and see my own procedure and the results. Dr. Pierone used a combination of Radiesse (calcium hydroxylapatite, Radiance) and Sculptra (poly-L-lactic acid, New-Fill) to begin restoring the loss of facial fat, and I look forward to follow-up procedures in the months to come. Maybe my experience can help you decide if this is right for you or someone you care about.
Mark's R-Rated S.E.X. Blog
January 28, 2009 When I got my nipples pierced about three years ago, I was fresh out of drug rehab and wanted to make a provocative gesture that said "They can take away the meth but I'm still a sexual being, dammit!" Getting solid gold rings only added to the "investment" in my acting out. And, yeah, piercing unlikely places on your body ... hurts. No one has seen my bedazzled nips lately, unless a glance in the gym locker room counts. My body jewelry has outlasted my sexual appetite, it appears, because this former card-carrying Sex Pig has left the pen and shaken off the mud. In other words, maturity (and sexual dysfunction from the emotional scars of meth addiction) has won out. And then I noticed that an otherwise benign article on The Body, "Sex Pigs" Campaign Creates Space for Sexually Adventurous Australian Men to Talk About HIV Risk, became the most widely read article on the site for a time! Is there a thirst for information on high-risk activity? Or do we gravitate to potentially sexually explicit content out of pure habit?
The Drug Addict Takes A Holiday
January 13, 2009 As carefully as I manage my HIV meds and doctor appointments, I manage my recovery from crystal meth addiction. "Recovery" means different things to people and those facing addiction find help in various ways -- 12-step programs, therapy, their church or faith -- and I'm not going to promote one or the other. I'll simply say that being vigilant and accepting myself as a crystal meth addict in recovery is vital, and the consequences of ignoring it are more dangerous than even my HIV diagnosis. My video blog takes you to Ft. Lauderdale, Florida, where I recently spent time with a former partner who said goodbye to our relationship when I entered rehab about three years ago. He had had enough of my drama, my lies and my inability to function honestly. The relationship I squandered, though, has been renewed, however tentatively, as he and I try to figure out what we might mean to one another today, after these years. He has learned quite a bit more about the nature of addiction, and I have shown a commitment to regaining my true self. There have been relapses along the way, to be honest, and getting to the root of what takes me there has been a tough emotional excavation. Check out the video blog as I try to make sense of second chances, or just to see me fall flat on my ass from a faulty hammock. (ouch!)
Taking Care of Hal
November 20, 2008; 10:01 a.m. Years ago I worked as director of an agency for people living with HIV/AIDS, and although the work was satisfying, I was irritated with one principle of the agency: "You don't know what it's like if you are not HIV positive." Really? It seems our caregivers get a pretty good idea. One of the most unintentionally hurtful things my brother Dick's late lover said to him, as my brother cared for him throughout his illness, was "you don't know what it's like." My brother had a horrific front row seat to his lover's disease and dying process. Isn't that close enough to understand?
Oprah Comes Calling
November 10, 2008; 5:01 p.m. Greetings, all my viral and not-so-viral friends! Yes, I do get flip from time to time, but blame it on my extremely good mood. Because this month my video blog features an actual, for-real phone call from the folks at the Oprah Show. Yes, the Mother of All Gab Fests turned to yours truly for ... what, exactly? Watch the blog and find out! Meanwhile I remain the luckiest damn fool alive; my recent doctor appointment showed no viral load and more T cells than one man deserves (800+). I'd like to chalk it up to cigarettes and double chocolate brownies made from scratch (why oh why am I single with such talents?), but the name of the game, my sweet infected friends, is compliance. I take those damn pills rain or shine, keep the refills coming and treat my mental and emotional health as seriously as I treat this rockin' bod. OK, now I'm just giddy.
My Alter Ego: Anita Mann
October 2, 2008; 6:03 p.m. This is one of those weeks when my diseases -- HIV and addiction -- take a back seat to "real life" and the pleasures it can provide. Although, like a noisy passenger, sometimes the back seat is just as intrusive. My brother Dick is visiting this week. He's also gay, in recovery, and we share a healthy sense of humor as perfectly as our shared DNA. He's here to rehearse and perform a show we've written for a conference this weekend for gays and lesbians in recovery. It's a silly show with serious undertones, and that's an apt description for our time together. Dick somehow escaped becoming HIV positive himself, but lost a lover of 13 years to the disease. Memories of that terrible time have faded but stubbornly remain. His subsequent drug addiction raged terribly until he found recovery and has been clean for 14 years now. What an inspiration he is to me.
My Fabulous Disease
September 24, 2008; 11:34 a.m. I'm tempted to begin with, "I'm Mark, and I'm a drug addict," because so much of my life is caught up in repairing the damage of many years of addiction. If you don't have experience with addicts, never fear. I can easily convince you how functional I am and have been: Years of leading an AIDS agency; long term relationships with well adjusted, handsome men; and a fairly successful vocation as a writer and columnist. I wish I could tell you what to expect from this blog, but will guarantee only that it will be an honest account of my life living with HIV and as an addict in recovery. Beyond that, life is unpredictable so hopefully the blog will reflect that. As you may have noticed, I'll be video blogging as well, which I'm really excited about because so much can get lost in translation -- humor, sarcasm, and other such tools I often call upon -- in the written word. Check out the video blog if you are able. |
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My Fabulous Disease Mark S. King has been an active AIDS activist, writer and community organization leader since the early 1980s in Los Angeles. He has been an outspoken advocate for prevention education and for issues important to those living with HIV. Diagnosed in 1985, Mark has held positions with the Los Angeles Shanti Foundation, AID Atlanta and AIDS Survival Project, and is an award-winning writer. He continues his volunteer work as an AIDS educator and speaker for conferences and events. Speaking engagements: Mark King is available to speak to groups. Click here to contact him. More About Mark: Subscribe to Mark's Blog: A Brief Disclaimer: The opinions expressed by TheBody.com's bloggers are entirely their own, and do not necessarily reflect the views of TheBody.com itself. Recent Posts: February 2, 2010 - A Facial Wasting Update January 4, 2010 - Serosorting and Sex Clubs December 15, 2009 - Drag and Gratitude: A Holiday Video Blog December 2, 2009 - When My T Cells Are Old and Gray May 27, 2009 - My Search for Meaning April 22, 2009 - You Gotta Have Friends March 25, 2009 - Treating My Facial Wasting January 28, 2009 - Mark's R-rated S.E.X. Blog January 13, 2009 - The Drug Addict Takes A Holiday November 20, 2008 - Taking Care of Hal November 10, 2008 - Oprah Comes Calling October 2, 2008 - My Alter Ego: Anita Mann September 24, 2008 - My Fabulous Disease View an excerpt of Mark's book Interviews With Mark:
Mark King Looks Back at the AIDS Epidemic's Darkest Hour in the U.S. (May 14, 2008) Articles by Mark:
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