Quick Poll ![]() What meds are you on now? I'm on Truvada [tenofovir/FTC], Sustiva [efavirenz, Stocrin] and Kaletra [lopinavir/ritonavir]. How has that been working for you? Very well. I haven't been having any problems with them. Ever since they changed Kaletra from a gel capsule to a tablet, it's even better not having to worry about refrigerating my meds. That's also a plus. You said you had some problems with your meds and your health had been up and down. What happened? There was one medication in particular that I remember made me so sick. It was called Viramune [nevirapine]. It broke my face out into something so horribly disgusting. I didn't even want to go out into the street because my face was broken out. My skin was peeling off my face. I don't even know how to describe it. It was so nasty looking, and I was so sick I had to lie in bed. I was vomiting all the time. I was staying with my grandmother at the time, and she and my little sister had to come up and help me keep things down. Every time I drank some Ensure [a complete protein drink] or noodles or anything to help me have some sustenance it would always come back up. Since then you've switched medications and you feel better? Yes. What's your CD4 count and your viral load? My CD4 count is 477, and my viral load is undetectable. Congratulations! Thank you. How far is that from when you were first diagnosed? Do you remember? My counts differed, but I remember the one that stuck out the most was when I went in and they told me that my CD4 count was 30 and my viral load was 750,0000. They gave me an AIDS diagnosis because my CD4 count was so low -- to the point that they didn't understand -- and my viral load was so extremely high. That was when you were first diagnosed? That was a couple of months after. The first time my CD4 count was 52. Then, something drastic happened. They got me on meds and it wasn't working; I dropped all the way down to 30. Were you hospitalized at that point? No, I was never hospitalized for anything related to HIV at all. Now, how was your health care at that point? How did you choose your current doctor? Well, my current doctor was chosen through a family practitioner. I was going to him at the time, and he referred me to the doctor I'm seeing now …. He's very good at what he does. Is this the same person you've been seeing since you were first diagnosed? Yes, it is. Oh, that's great. Is your doctor African American as well? No, he's not. He's actually Caucasian. Do you feel like you have a good working relationship? I have heard other people have different kinds of relationships with their doctors, but my [relationship with my] doctor is strictly a doctor-patient relationship. He smiles sometimes and we joke, but he really is about business. He knows my counts, makes sure I'm healthy and doing thing[s] to stay healthy. Our relationship is really a patient-doctor relationship. Do you feel like he treats you as an equal partner in your health care? He does -- he's always taking my input. Before, when I was taking other medications, he told me, "I want to cut back on this medicine, but not if you don't think that's OK. If you want to cut back you let me know. I don't know how this is going to work because this one might be resistant." I said, "Well, I'm with you, because you know what's best. I'm not a doctor, so you tell me." So, he takes my input even though I don't understand all the medication options and what they can do for me. He takes my input anyway. So, you feel like you have a trusting kind of relationship. Yes, I do. What do you do to keep healthy? Do you have a health regimen or anything else to keep healthy besides your meds? Well, my mom is always waking me up at five in the morning to go to the gym. I really hate that, but I'm happy about it because it does keep me active. I take vitamins as well -- I take Centrum. I'm always trying to eat healthy, even though I slip up sometimes. I try to make healthy meals -- salads, or at least snack on celery or carrots during the day. "The best reaction I got was from someone who, after I told them my whole entire story about how I did get HIV, the guy ? was actually pissed off. He said, 'That guy, he shouldn't have done that to you. I'm just mad because you seem like such a nice individual. Why would someone do that to you?'" You spoke earlier about disclosing to your mom, and then having her tell your family. I'm wondering, now, how do you decide when to disclose to somebody? Now that I'm on this tour it seems a lot easier to disclose. Before, the way I would do it is I would take some time and get to know that person, not for a whole two months or one month, but I'd give them a week or two. If everything's going well, I'd say, "Hey, look, I'm HIV positive." That two-week period gives them enough time to get to know me a little bit and for them to think about, "Well, she just told me she's HIV positive. Do I want to be with her or not?" I think I've taken that time to give them a chance to get to know me a little bit but also for them to take this and know this about me for themselves. What kind of reactions have you got from disclosing to people? What was the best reaction you ever got? The best reaction I got was from someone who, after I told them my whole entire story about how I did get HIV, the guy … was actually pissed off. He said, "That guy, he shouldn't have done that to you. I'm just mad because you seem like such a nice individual. Why would someone do that to you?" So that's the best reaction I've ever gotten. "The worst reaction I ever got after telling someone I had HIV was from someone who said, 'All you HIV people, you need to be put on an island and blown up!'" What about the worst reaction?
The worst reaction I ever got after telling someone I had HIV was from someone who said, "All you HIV people, you need to be put on an island and blown up!" Wow! How did you respond to that? I couldn't respond because after they said that they just hung up on me. How has your love life changed since you became positive? Well, for me it hasn't changed too much. I'm usually in long-term relationships. The last relationship I just got out of was four years. I had disclosed to him early on in the relationship, and he was fine with it. I haven't had much dating because I'm usually in long-term relationships. I'll be out there again in the dating scene, and I'm just going to be honest and open. Do you have any tips for people with HIV who are dating? I would just say be yourself. Always be open and honest. Don't try to be fake, use a façade or put up a front. Be yourself, and if they can't accept you they're not the one for you. Excellent. Is there anything else you'd like to share with our readers? Just stay positive. Be aware. Be prepared. Get tested, and know your status. Thank you so much, Teniecka. You're welcome! Teniecka Hannah can be reached via email at honey_drake@yahoo.com. Would you like to hear Teniecka's story in person? To schedule Teniecka as a speaker, contact Who's Positive.
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Comment by: Onyash
(ORongai Kenya)
Sat., Nov. 7, 2009 at 1:54 pm EST Sorry mate. I will do my best to be a loving husband when i final make a decision to be one. I am under pressure to indulge but I choose to go through my relationships with my eyes open. Never fixed a woman. Under pressure from myself. deep within I want to indulge but the joys of decency and integrity supersede the short lived sexual pleasure. Its Un-African to have not fixed a woman at my age: almost 30 today! I have just participated in a poll and i learned that African And African Americans get HIV+ because they are Homophobic. Want to prove that we are a real men. Real men are Heterosexual and to prove this men my age go round the states and this continent sowing their seeds. I choose to wait for her and treat her with decency. He didn't treat you with respect and lied to your love. Dee (New York, NY) What you want for your daughter is what i have always wanted for my girl. Y'all Wish me luck as I live my life and love life. Its what we all have in common whether HIV- or HIV+ chao. People-Its difficult but worth it and will last a lifetime. In fact living in a Country and continent full of lions in the wild. Them as kings running around with lionesses, men In Africa feel like pulling such stunts and many do it. It devastates. The pressure devastates but People I will pull through. Wish me luck once again. Never give up educating your friends and neighours.
Comment by: Dee
(New York, NY)
Mon., Oct. 26, 2009 at 7:06 pm EDT I found out in 1997 that I was infected. I'd been with my husband since 1984 in what I thought was a monogamous relationship. It wasn't. This I only found out about 4 years ago. My siblings knew the whole time and said nothing. He had me believe he got it from a blood transfusion in 1990. His double life was quite sordid and I'm sure there are things I will never know. My kidneys failed because of HIV. He was never a kind person and we have no relationship other than co-parenting. I've had my transplant for one year now and have applied to nursing school. As soon as I can take care of myself I am outta here. By then our daughter will be in college. I was sheltered growing up and very naive. I wasn't allowed to date and only tried sex a couple of times in my early 20s. Protection was used each time. I let this person bully me into a relationship and marriage. Growing up in an abusive, mentally unstable home, it seem perfectly normal that I shouldn't be happy. I have raised a strong daughter. She knows what her father did. I pray she will marry for love and go through her relationshiops with her eyes wide open. God Bless you all.
Comment by: Helen
(UK)
Fri., Sep. 25, 2009 at 10:27 am EDT may god bless you dearly
Comment by: Margaret
(Nairobi Kenya )
Thu., Sep. 3, 2009 at 9:52 am EDT you are such a strong beautiful woman ! Long live and God bless you. you are in my prayers!
Comment by: Devon
(East St. Louis, IL)
Mon., Aug. 24, 2009 at 7:57 pm EDT My prayers are with you. You are such as an encouragement and I thank God for your life and your story. Be blessed and encourage beautiful woman of God.
Comment by: x
Wed., Jun. 24, 2009 at 1:24 pm EDT if it was a steer nobody would get anywhere near it.If it was food everyone would be very allergic to it. but it is through sex and love that one can be infected. How many people are not potential sufferers? that is my response to people who think like your mother did. long live all positive people. thanks for your story.
Comment by: Rudo
(coventry,UK)
Thu., Jun. 18, 2009 at 9:41 am EDT Well this good--there is life after being diagnosed. I was diagnosed 9 years ago when I was a nobody,but then I have achieved goals I would never thoght I would reach. As a matter of fact I am also happily married to my negative husband who is caring and blessed with beautiful kids. Guys don't give up, and be open and don't spread the virus rather educate those who don't know. Always have a relationship with your dr and the clinic staff, taking your drugs properly. It's a shame for the undeveloped countries where medication has not reached, use God as the tooler of everything asking for health mercies. I have a sister not on medication in Zimbabwe who has been pos for the past 11 yrs. Be positive, eat more organic foods, leave the burden to God, get a partner. WHO SAID YOU CAN'T? YES WITH HIV YOU CAN!
Comment by: PAUL
(NAIROBI KENYA)
Sat., Jun. 6, 2009 at 6:07 am EDT IT DOES NOT MATTER HOW YOU GOT INFECTED. WHAT IS IMPORTANT IS HOW YOU ARE COOPING WITH THE CONDITION. HIV IS NOT A DEATH SENTENCE. YOU MAY NOT DIE OF IT BUT THERE ARE MILLIONS OF OTHER CAUSES OF DEATH. EG ROAD ACCIDENT. EARTH QUAKE ETC, SO WHY WORRY?
Comment by: KEMI ALARAPE
(Port Harcourt Nigeria)
Thu., Jun. 4, 2009 at 8:53 am EDT I THANK GOD FOR YOUR LIFE.YOU ARE A BUNDLE OF ENCOURAGEMENT TO THE WORLD AT LARGE.CHEERS.
Comment by: steffanie
(ft myers fl)
Wed., May. 27, 2009 at 8:06 pm EDT when i was first find out i was positive my doctor told me of this site and your story was one of the first i read. u was strong and seem to move on great. it moved me to know that there was life after being positive. i have a great family, i mean really great. after a year i'm undetected and moving on with life and i give a little of that to ur story and the wonderful works of god who i trust in dearly without his grace i don't know where i would be. the town i live in has no support group to help people and i think this is why god has kept me here to reach out to young woman just last week i went to the doctor and he ask me to speak to a young lady around my age which i'm 30 and got it though a boyfriend who i believe knew he was positive. the doctor told me when she asked if he knew anyone who she could talk to. he only thought of me cause i was happy healthy and had pulled myself from a long ways. i thank you and may god bless and keep u always
Comment by: xolelwa
(south africa , johannesburg)
Wed., May. 6, 2009 at 3:23 pm EDT IT IS BY THE GRACE OF GOD ALMIGHTY THAT HE GAVE US EVERY DAY THAT WE MUST LIVE FOR US IS TO THANK HIM BY ALL THAT WE HAVE EVERY DAY WHEN WE WAKE UP. IT IS NOT IN OUR POWER TO SURVIVE THE DREADFUL DISEASE BUT FOR HIM TO SHOW HIS LOVE TO US. PRAYER AND TOTAL DEPENDENCE TO GOD IS OUR POWER OF STRENGTH AND SURVIVAL. HE LOVED US AS EVERYBODY NO MATTER WE ARE LIVING WITH A DRAGON IN OUR BODIES. HE SHOW US THAT HE LOVE US AS WE ARE. IT IS NOT OUR SINS OR OUR FORFATHERS SINS BUT FOR ME GOD HAS SHOWN HIS LOVE TO US AND IF HE (GOD) GIVES GRAPES, WE MUST MAKE GRAPE JUICE AND REALLY DWELL ON IT BECAUSE EVERY DAY HE IS OUR STRENGTH. WE MUST JUST PUT OUR HOPE TO HIM FOR HIM HE CARES ABOUT US SO MUCH. THANKS SISTER MAY GOD PUT HIS HANDS OVER US AND SEAL US WITH THE BLOOD OF THE HOLY GHOST, AND FIGHT FOR US BECAUSE IN LIFE WE ARE IN A BATTLE BEING HIV POSITIVE OR NOT WE HAVE TO FIGHT FOR SURVIVAL. GOD BLESS YOU ALL IN HIS PROMISE OF THE HOLY SPIRIT BECAUSE AGAIN WE ARE NOT ALONE. IN HIM WE ARE THE WINNERS. THANK YOU ALL. XOLELWA .JHB.
Comment by: sheila dextra
(miami fl)
Tue., Apr. 28, 2009 at 12:12 pm EDT i am writting a story and i came across your story i just wanted to say you are a very brave woman and u are in my thoughts and prayers
Comment by: Amanda Hannah
(Milwaukee,Wisconsin)
Thu., Apr. 23, 2009 at 11:54 am EDT How old are you and are you doing more better then when you find out that you was diagnosed with HIV....I'm in high school and I'm research about HIV/AIDS but your story really caught my attention.I will be writing about your story and want I got out of it....I wish the best for you and your family because I know you been threw alot and I also want to know want would you of done if you was ever thought about HIV/AIDS in school?Do you ever go to high school to talk teenagers like me?I hope you teach people who don't know about HIV about it so they would know so they can't say no one told them because their are teens my age that parents don't care want they do so if a person who been threw it should be a help for their life and I hope you could be the one.....GOD BLESS YOU......
Comment by: Yolanda L.
(Cleveland,MS)
Thu., Jan. 29, 2009 at 11:16 pm EST Your story has touched my heart and i pray that your story reaches some one so maybe they can open up and help some one else. MAY GOD BLESS AND KEEP YOU!!
Comment by: Chanel
(Houston,Texas)
Thu., Jan. 29, 2009 at 2:18 pm EST I was expose to Hiv my test came back neg and I go for the next one next week your story touch me to be positive no matter what.
Comment by: Rachel
(Harare, zimbabwe)
Wed., Jan. 14, 2009 at 8:52 am EST I am so proud of you doll, reading your story had motivated me more. I too am hiv positive, for almost 7 years now and the Lord has given me strength to carry on with life and not give up. Just because we have it doesn't mean we will die tomorrow. Amen and all the best to you girl!! Bless You...
Comment by: Harvett
(East Cleveland, OH)
Mon., Dec. 1, 2008 at 1:28 pm EST I am glad to hear that your viral load is undetectable. I wish that you didn't have HIV. I feel that a lot of churches should talk more about the horrific disease. We need to stop playing holier than thou and use what God (Allah, Christ, whoever you consider to be your messiah) gave you. Take care.
Comment by: hadija lema
(africa-tanzania)
Thu., Nov. 20, 2008 at 1:16 am EST Thank for your disclosure. Please keep teaching the community the importance of testing and disclosure. May god bless you.
Comment by: Elder Iris
(Bronx, New York)
Thu., Nov. 6, 2008 at 7:50 pm EST Hi there Teniecka, you stand your ground and keep your faith! You are a strong young woman! Thank God for his mercy. I strongly believe that the lord will turn your situation around for good, continue to seek God for he is your healer! Read: Phil 4:13 "I can do everything through him that strengthens me." ~~~~~~~JESUS LOVES YOU!~~~~~~~~~~
Comment by: July
(Houston, Texas)
Tue., Oct. 14, 2008 at 1:58 am EDT Thank you for opening up and being detail about your life. You still have faith in GOD, which is admirable. Up until now I hadn't admitted it, but I think I had lost my faith. You have given me hope and courage to live a day at a time. My family doesn't know. I would like to tell them, but I don't want them to worry with my burdens, especially my sweet mother. I went to the doctor today and got back on my meds. Thank you for sharing your life.
Comment by: Sibongile
(South Africa)
Thu., Sep. 11, 2008 at 10:06 am EDT Like you, the only person I could turn to was GOD and it really kept me going while I was waiting for results for my CD4 count. My faith is what has brought me this far (6 months). I am still not in a position to talk about it but have come to terms with it. I have not been able to tell my boyfriend, he stays far and we have not seen each other since I was diagonised but am taking each day as it comes. Thanks sister for sharing your story
Comment by: Gary Smith
Mon., Jul. 21, 2008 at 4:51 pm EDT Howdy old friend, I do miss ya' ! Lots of hearts! Gary write me, I'm in the book, call too!
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