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Simply, Syn: A New Column About Dealing with Dating Issues

July 2000

My name is Syn and this is my column. "Simply Syn" is a new column about an old subject. I don't profess to be a professional anything. I am not a doctor or psychotherapist; I do not have any letters following my name, nor do I believe I know the subject I am about to undertake any better than the next person.

What I do know is that I believe in romance, love, great sex and passion. I believe that people are basically good and situations and circumstances happen. How we choose to handle those situations determines their outcome and how they become a part of one's life. And I am writing this because my editor is allowing me to have this forum.

In the coming issues, I will ask you to share your feelings, ask advice and tell stories. Unique to this column, I will share my deepest, darkest stories with you.

On Life's Journey

In all my thirty-something (closer to forty-something) years, I have found that life is an incredible journey.

I know this may sound ridiculous, but I am so thankful for the past failed relationships I have had. Because of them I have learned such an incredible amount about others and myself. Had I not had those relationships, I wouldn't be the learned, love creature that I am today.

I can tell you that I have never truly been "in love": the kind of "in love" where all common sense flies out the window. I hope someday to be, but the right person to induce those feelings in me hasn't arrived yet, or has he. . . ?

Lately, I have been having a lot of fun. I have been voraciously attacking the Internet dating sites. I have received between 2,000 and 3,000 letters from men and women (and even written one or two myself).

From those letters, I have narrowed the scope to corresponding with maybe a few hundred. From those hundreds, I have had telephone conversations with maybe 50. From those 50, I have made a date with approximately 30 individuals. Of those 30, I have enjoyed maybe (counting on both hands) six of them, which lead to some sort of grand finale (or a grander finale than the others).

Right off the bat, I will tell you that I did not sleep with any of these individuals. Zero. Stop laughing; it's true. I can be a sex goddess and not fall into bed with everyone who turns my knobs.

I did have some fun with those with whom I felt chemistry. To most of you, the fun would not be very interesting, although I do pride myself on my sexual and sensual prowess and abilities. I would even go so far as to say that I envision myself as somewhat of a "star," and only let special people sample the fruits of my tree.

For those of you who have questions and are looking for an answer from someone who is objective, fire away. I can only promise to always give you the best and most creative advice I would give to someone in my own family. I would love to hear any stories that you feel may help someone else, whether it will make them laugh or cry.

I will not judge your questions and stories. I respect and appreciate your sharing them.

So, until next time,

Simply, Syn

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This article has been reprinted at The Body with the permission of AIDS Project Los Angeles (APLA).

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This article was provided by AIDS Project Los Angeles. It is a part of the publication Positive Living.
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