Condoms for Couples
FAQs About Condoms for Heterosexual Couples
But I feel awkward with them. How do I use condoms?
How do I start talking about using condoms?
When should I talk to my partner?
Which condoms should I use?
Step by step how to use a condom
What if my partner says ... ?
"They're not romantic."
"You don't trust me."
"I don't use condoms."
"But we've been having sex without condoms."
"But I love you."
Couples today need to know about HIV and safe sex.
Condoms (rubbers) stop HIV (the virus that causes AIDS).
HIV disease is spread by sex (vaginal, anal or oral) without condoms.
Men can get it from women. Women can get it from men.
You can prevent the spread of HIV. Always use latex condoms.
Remember! Condoms are not 100% perfect. But if you use them properly (see "step by step"), they are very effective.
They're not hard to use, but practice helps! Play with a few. Stretch them to see how strong they are. Practice by yourself and with each other. It's fun for her to put the condom on him!
One way is to bring up the subject with your partner when AIDS is in the news. You can talk about its effect on people having sex, and how more and more people are using condoms.
Set your own limits first. Then talk to your partner before you have sex and before you're both hot. Pick a time when you can both relax.
Find condoms you both like. Any latex condom will stop HIV. Try different brands and different kinds (lubricated/dry, ribbed/smooth, etc.) Experiment and have fun.
What if my partner says ... ?What if he says, "They're not romantic."
"Just give me those condoms, and I'll show you how romantic they can be!"
What if she says, "You don't trust me."
"It's not a matter of trust. It's a matter of health."
What if he says, "I don't use condoms."
What if he says, "But we've been having sex without condoms."
"I use condoms every time."
"We can still prevent infection or reinfection."
What if she says, "But I love you."
"I love you, too. We still need to use condoms."
This article was provided by San Francisco AIDS Foundation. It is a part of the publication AIDS 101: Guide to HIV Basics. Visit San Francisco AIDS Foundation's Web site to find out more about their activities, publications and services.