Why Language Matters: Facing HIV Stigma in Our Own Words
October 31, 2017
The more awareness we bring to the importance of language, the more change we see. One of the first places to start is the language we hear in our own heads -- the things we tell ourselves daily that define who we are within ourselves. Sometimes, it is the story we tell ourselves that we are not good enough, strong enough, smart enough, or beautiful enough. That we deserve everything challenging that has happened to us because, somehow, we are damaged goods. This is often called negative self-talk.
There are two types of stigma: internal and external. External stigma comes from what we hear from our family, friends, healthcare providers, and others, and from what we read in the media. Internal stigma comes from self-judgment and the negative self-talk we hear in our heads. We hear these messages in our voice and the voices of our loved ones. The language used in these messages is developed by our experiences in life, with stigma and discrimination, with shame and guilt.
One way to address internalized stigma is to change the messages we say to ourselves. This helps to change how we see ourselves, and we begin to treat ourselves with more compassion. One way to do this is through mirror work and self-affirmations, and being careful about choosing the words we use to describe ourselves.
Mirror Work and Positive Affirmations
Affirmations are messages we tell ourselves. Negative self-talk is a kind of affirmation, but not a helpful one. Mirror work involves looking in the mirror and saying positive affirmations to ourselves -- messages like:
Positive affirmations can fill our minds with thoughts that heal our negative self-image and build confidence and self-esteem.
Researchers have found that using positive affirmations and mirror work has helped many women improve their self-image, confidence, outlook on life, and ultimately their health and well-being.
Examining and Changing Our Self-Talk
A good way to start examining our own self-talk is to write down the thoughts and messages we tell ourselves. Write down the "internal script," the narrative you repeat in your head, and then review these messages by yourself or with friends. Take the time to examine the specific language and words you choose to describe yourself and your current situation.
Examples of Negative Self Talk
Once you've done that, then ask yourself:
Then try replacing the old image with a new, more accurate image of yourself.
Examples of Positive Self-Talk
Positive self-talk involves finding words and phrases that inspire us. It also involves using less stigmatizing words to describe ourselves and our experiences.
Beginning to think about and make changes to the language they use to talk and think about HIV has been an empowering experience for many women living with HIV. For some, this process has led to pointing out the stigmatizing language used by others in their community: family, friends, and healthcare providers. Others may take the step of reaching out to members of the media, by writing letters to the editor of a publication or using social media, when a newspaper or website uses inappropriate language. Some people join with campaigns that make changing stigmatizing language a part of their strategy. HIV advocates have even won changes to the stigmatizing language used by large institutions like the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.
These are all powerful ways to be an advocate -- and they don't all involve being the loudest voice in a big crowd. Every time you question the use of a phrase that fuels stigma and ignorance -- even to yourself -- you contribute to building hope, and to changing our culture from one that disrespects women living with HIV, to one that uses language to support the power and dignity of all women.
[Note from TheBody.com: This article was originally published by The Well Project on Oct. 19, 2017. We have cross-posted it with their permission.]
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