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Are You Having "Bad Sex"?

June 10, 2014

I love to watch the TV show "Bad Sex" on LogoTV. Mostly it is because I think the host Chris Donaghue is amazingly hot and I have a huge man crush on him, but also because at times it can be a real train wreck. With each episode I find that on some level I am able to relate to something most of the members of the show are going through, it can be some small aspect or it can be the main reason they are there seeking treatment.

If you do not know what "Bad Sex" is or you have just never watched it, here is the jist of it. Dr. Chris Donaghue is a sex therapist. He brings in people who for different reasons are having issues with maintaining a healthy sexual lifestyle. It could be anywhere on the spectrum that they are just not turned on by sexual intercourse to they are addicted to having sexual relations with multiple people multiple times a day. There is a little bit of everything represented on the show. Dr. Donaghue works with them in a group therapy atmosphere and also one-on-one. Though his therapy sessions he works with each individual to find out what is causing them to not be able to have a healthy sex life and then to work though those issues.

Personally I believe we could all learn something from just listening to what is talked about on the show. You never know, you might find that someone on the show is having the same issues that you are.

By watching the show and looking at my own past sexual experiences I realize that I was abusing sex and engaging in "bad sex" on a regular basis. This not only effected me but other partners as well. There was a time where I was one of those who was addicted to sex and I did not care where or how I got it, as long as I got it when I wanted. This put me and everyone that I was sleeping around with at risk. I was not protecting myself or taking care of myself the way I know I should of been and that resulted in my being infected with HIV. This type of risky sexual behavior is what got me into the situation I am in today. I think many of us can relate to that on some level or another and have similar situations where we knew better but we still did not act on our better judgment.

I am not here to scare anyone away from having sex, because lets face it, we are all adults and we all know we get those urges from time to time. All I am trying to say is that there is a way to have healthy, safe, and fun sex while not going over board. We just have to start taking better care at protecting ourselves. Just be smart about it.

You would like to watch some episodes of Bad Sex with Dr. Chris Donaghue on LogoTV, they have episodes on their website LogoTV Bad Sex.

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Reader Comments:

Comment by: Norma (South Africa) Sat., Jul. 19, 2014 at 6:44 pm UTC
You know hiv is very stressing, I have a husband who likes to sleep around. I had to stop having sex with him but loneliness pushed me to go and sleep with him again but using a condom. What pushed me to him was to respect my 3 daughters because I am so scared my kids to seer with other man not their father. He is very good in sex but sleeping around kills me inside, tell me am I doing justice to myself or not?
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Comment by: Marc (Denver, CO) Thu., Jul. 3, 2014 at 5:33 pm UTC
Amazing timing. I'm a 40 year old male, and just came to the realization that "bad sex" just isn't worth it. When I was younger, I was addicted to sex. In my mind, all sex was good - which led to risky sexual behavior. When I found out, 3 years ago, that I had AIDS, I stopped having sex. A few months ago I started having sex again. It didn't matter if the sex was good or bad - it was sex. And, having any kind of sex was good - right? Last week I realized that "bad sex" really isn't satisfying. Why was I doing something that wasn't even bringing me any joy or satisfaction. I guess it has taken me 20 years, but I have finally realized that "bad sex" just isn't for me. The above article so closely matches my current feelings and validates my thoughts. I have never seen the show, but am very curious now. I really feel my new mindset, about sex, is going to change my life, for the better, in such a dramatic way. Thank you for writing about this, the timing could not have been better.
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