Motherhood and HIV -- the Laughter, the Fears and the Hopes of HIV-Positive Moms
March 21, 2014
One of the most common questions that many women living with HIV have is whether they will be able to have healthy children. With the help of modern medicine, we know that the answer is a resounding "YES!" Of course, all the challenges after childbirth can weigh on many women's minds, as well. For those of you who worry about how to disclose your status to your child or how to care for your child's emotional needs, listen to the supportive words of these five women living with HIV who have been there.
Taken from interviews for TheBody.com's This Positive Life series, these short clips are samples of the larger stories each of these interviewees has to tell.
Table of Contents
- Ronda Hodges Discusses Open Conversations With Her Son and Daughter-in-Law
- Patricia Clark on Being a Different Kind of Mother
- Lolisa Gibson, Who Was Born With HIV, Discusses Her Hopes for Becoming a Mother
- Patricia Nalls on Disclosing to Her Young Children and Bringing Them to Support Groups
- Monica Johnson on Giving Birth to an HIV-Positive Baby, Fighting for Equality and Finding Out She Was Not Alone
My son is 24. His wife is 25. They're like six months apart in age. They took it very hard when they found out. I am very close to my son. I am very open -- from sex, to drugs, to funny jokes, to when it comes down to cry. I have a relationship with him that a lot of mothers don't have with their sons. I've always been open with him, since the day he could talk. We still are.
I did keep this from him at first, and he held a grudge, the first six months to a year. But he's seen me during bad times when I've looked my worst, which I tried to hide (and it didn't work). And now he's to the point, "Mom, you're single; you and Dad are divorced. I've dealt with that. I'm over with it. You have HIV. You're going to find somebody else. And if you don't, you know what? Go out and have fun and enjoy your life now. You've raised me and I just want to see you happy."
But I also want to educate them so that they're aware of it, too. Because he does ask me questions -- some I can answer; some I can't. Just today, I've learned a lot that I couldn't answer myself. So the more I know, the better I can educate them.
Like I said, we should all be open with our kids. But I realize a lot of parents aren't. But, yes. I'm blessed; I can be open with mine.
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