The Body: The Complete HIV/AIDS Resource Follow Us Follow Us on Facebook Follow Us on Twitter 
Professionals >> Visit The Body PROThe Body en Espanol
HIV/AIDS Resource Center for the Newly Diagnosed
Enrique Raul Bernadette Fortunata Heidi Greg Jack Ahmad Lucia

Ben B.

A House in Virginia

On the New Age Movement, From NYC
May 22, 2014

One thing that hit me hard while watching Dallas Buyers Club: the fact that mainstream 1980s medical science was completely unprepared for the AIDS epidemic, coupled with the societal stigma/homophobia of the era, meant that the afflicted had to resort to their own means to survive. Meaning, outside of standard medical science.

Read more …

On Guilt and Shame
May 21, 2014

It's amazing how much negativity you can disarm simply by owning said negative thing like it's a positive thing.

Read more …

Currently, My Biggest Fear
May 20, 2014

One of the long-term writing projects I had given myself in the past few years was to write a book on a lifetime of experience with HIV, less about my own story and more a commentary on being a child in the early AIDS era and how it impacted me as I grew older and HIV/AIDS grew downplayed into merely a "condition."

Read more …

The Dying White Male Patriarchy: On Donald Sterling
May 13, 2014

Before I begin, I'd like to issue the disclaimer that I don't want ANYONE to think that racism is more acceptable to me than HIV-phobia/ignorance. At my core, my greatest wish is to have all human beings treated with equality/respect as a matter of fact, not favor.

Read more …

Am I A Prude?
March 10, 2014

... Or have my values been colonized by the heteronormative hegemony of a previous generation?

Read more …

Mind Games: Visualization and Equilibrium
March 4, 2014

It is the folly of the young to think their own generation was the first to come up with something, but I'd like to argue that 80s kids were the first Americans to receive "meditation training" in grade school.

Read more …

Strength Personified
March 4, 2014

My first week or two after diagnosis was, as stated prior, during "the Polar Vortex." Generally, I hibernate in winter. Negative-number temps brings this hibernation up to an art form.

Add recent medical news, and the only thing I was good for was arguing the case of Ass v. Sofa Cushion.

Read more …

An Initiate at "The Vampire Academy"
March 3, 2014

I will admit that for more than a dozen years now, I've found HIV utterly fascinating.

I have to be very careful here with my point in this post because I don't want to offend. I have always had a dark, shadowy, quasi-romantic view of those with HIV. Like. Dracula. Or The X-Men. They're mysterious ... and social outcasts.

Read more …

New Rules: HIV Social Etiquette
February 25, 2014

A few years ago, I did some work volunteering for a project detailing the history of LGBT America. We had some fairly intense training sessions prior to launch, to make sure all volunteers were on the same page, especially where "sensitivity" and "political correctness" were concerned.

Read more …

Why So Anonymous?
February 20, 2014

And yet: I'm fine. Better than fine, I'm thriving. Energy returning, shopping for gyms, et cetera. The life I knew, the gay culture I knew, the values I was instilled with... those are all dated and therefore pointless. The worldview I HAD is dead.

Read more …

 1  |  2  |  Next > 


A House in Virginia

Ben B.

Ben B.

Ben is an old soul from the American heartland. Indoctrinated as a child on AIDS education throughout the 80s/90s, he's fascinated by the sociological and psychological outcomes that resulted from that exposure, for all of us. Especially as new medicines and new generations rise to the challenge, relegating this once-fatal disease into "merely" a serious condition.

A recent diagnosis paired with this ancient education means internal conflict. Ben thrives on examining the layers of HIV-- where society, relationships and even the law are concerned.

Besides that, Ben's innate intellectual curiosity steers him toward diverse things such as immunity and diet, body politics, and "HIV subculture.

Welcome to A House In Virginia.

Send Ben an email

Subscribe to Ben's Blog:

Subscribe by RSSBy RSS ?

Subscribe by Email

Recent Posts:

View All Posts

A Brief Disclaimer:

The opinions expressed by's bloggers are entirely their own, and do not necessarily reflect the views of itself.


The content on this page is free of advertiser influence and was produced by our editorial team. See our advertising policy.