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8 HIV/AIDS Issues You Couldn't Stop Talking About in 2013

December 1, 2013

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Your Mother Liked It Bareback

By Mark S. King

Mark S. King

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In a nutshell: The year started off with a bang when a study was released finding that gay men on Grindr often have unprotected sex. Mark S. King was royally pissed -- not just at the findings themselves, but at the manner in which our society, and our community, tends to react to them. His words sparked heated debate and revealed starkly different views on the subject.

Quotable: "Somehow, we have come to the homophobic conclusion that when gay men engage in the romantic, emotional, spiritual act of intercourse without a barrier we label it psychotic barebacking, but when straight people do it we call it sex."

What our readers said:

"You accuse pro-condom-use campaigners of a sort of fascism, yet you hypervalorise anal sex without rubbers as if nothing else could possible demonstrate love, intimacy or sincerity. That really simply isn't true: it's an exciting romantic notion, but not a true one. ... I want people to do what they want and be free, but pretending won't make it so: there are consequences to one's actions." -- J T (From London)

"Most of our instincts are clamoring -- begging -- us to spread or receive seed. It's possible to be rational about sex (an inherently irrational act) but it's very, very difficult. Most straight youth engage in unprotected sex, yet there are risks for them as well. We shouldn't devalue the sexuality of gay youth by applying a double standard. ... Of course we should support them to find ways of being safe without burdening them with a sense of responsibility, but we should definitely not castigate them for being human." -- RayW (From Australia)

"Using a condom each and every time you have sex is not an 'Olympian' act. It's a responsible act, towards yourself and whoever you are having sex with. Fortunately, when I grew up we were taught having sex without a condom was dangerous. Imagine a young gay guy just coming to terms and coming across this dangerous article that justifies his urge to have unsafe sex, rather than condem it. No one would have written such an article when I was coming out in the 1990s because everyone was terrified of HIV, as they should be today." -- Disgusted (From the U.S.)

"Considering that this is a site used by so many poz people, I'm always surprised at the number of anti-barebacker voices in any discussion on the subject. Are Mark and I truly in the minority when we say that we enjoy barebacking? My suspicion is that we aren't." -- AJ (From New York City)

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