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What's Monogamy Got to Do With Marriage?

Study Notes and Anecdotes From LGBT People in Committed, Non-Monogamous Partnerships

June 25, 2013

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Lanz Lowen and Blake Spears

Lanz and Blake

In your professional and personal experiences, in light of the current public marriage-equality conversation, has there been an uptick in stigma toward people whose relationships don't mirror the monogamous-marriage model?

Notwithstanding a few "attacks," we've been surprised at how little this has come up. Our expectation was that we would encounter resistance and animosity, and the idea that talking about non-monogamy was counterproductive to the fight for marriage equality. For the most part, this has not been our experience. In general, non-monogamy is not openly discussed in the community, in or out of the context of marriage. This was part of our reason for conducting the study. We heard from many couples that they don't feel comfortable discussing these types of issues even with other couples. Ironically, "open, honest communication" is at the top of everyone's list of what helps.




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Comment by: craig larue (arkansas) Tue., Aug. 20, 2013 at 3:31 pm EDT
It is typical of publications that generate a large percentage of their income from pharmaceutical companies that sell HIV drugs that Olivia Ford is ambivilant about avoiding HIV. The concept of homosexuals avoiding HIV means less advertizing dollars for theBody and less money for articles normalizing HIV as a part of Gay life that should not be avoided or prevented unless one feels an unfashionable need to avoid HIV because of internalized homphobia.
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Comment by: ryan h. (dearborn mi 48124) Wed., Jun. 26, 2013 at 8:16 pm EDT
do not agree. all but a few on these type relationship i know have not worked. for awhile maybe but not long term. adult form committed partnerships. young boys feel the need for multiple guys. i dont know straight couples that this has worked for either.i certainly don't claim to be an expert just saying what i know to be true. i was lucky to has a committed 15 year relationship with a man who unfortunately passed away. ten years later i happily found another
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