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What's Monogamy Got to Do With Marriage?

Study Notes and Anecdotes From LGBT People in Committed, Non-Monogamous Partnerships

June 25, 2013


Lanz Lowen and Blake Spears

Lanz and Blake

In your professional and personal experiences, in light of the current public marriage-equality conversation, has there been an uptick in stigma toward people whose relationships don't mirror the monogamous-marriage model?

Notwithstanding a few "attacks," we've been surprised at how little this has come up. Our expectation was that we would encounter resistance and animosity, and the idea that talking about non-monogamy was counterproductive to the fight for marriage equality. For the most part, this has not been our experience. In general, non-monogamy is not openly discussed in the community, in or out of the context of marriage. This was part of our reason for conducting the study. We heard from many couples that they don't feel comfortable discussing these types of issues even with other couples. Ironically, "open, honest communication" is at the top of everyone's list of what helps.

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