Study Notes and Anecdotes From LGBT People in Committed, Non-Monogamous Partnerships
By Olivia Ford From TheBody.com
June 25, 2013
Lanz and Blake
Based on your experiences and study findings, what are some key words of advice you want to leave with people negotiating the openness of their relationships?
You have to come to some kind of agreement about opening or not opening the relationship. If the agreement isn't solid with strong commitment from both parties, it's likely to rear its head repeatedly and in ways that aren't very re-solvable.
You have to find a way that works for BOTH of you and fits your relationship. We were struck by the diversity of models and their tendency to evolve over the years.
Honesty and forthrightness are essential. Anything less quickly begins to undermine intimacy and trust.
Communicating directly and frequently is extremely helpful, although even couples who espoused this sometimes said they didn't do it enough.
Olivia Ford is the executive editor for TheBody.com and TheBodyPRO.com.
Comment by: craig larue
Tue., Aug. 20, 2013 at 3:31 pm EDT
It is typical of publications that generate a large percentage of their income from pharmaceutical companies that sell HIV drugs that Olivia Ford is ambivilant about avoiding HIV. The concept of homosexuals avoiding HIV means less advertizing dollars for theBody and less money for articles normalizing HIV as a part of Gay life that should not be avoided or prevented unless one feels an unfashionable need to avoid HIV because of internalized homphobia.
Comment by: ryan h.
(dearborn mi 48124)
Wed., Jun. 26, 2013 at 8:16 pm EDT
do not agree. all but a few on these type relationship i know have not worked. for awhile maybe but not long term. adult form committed partnerships. young boys feel the need for multiple guys. i dont know straight couples that this has worked for either.i certainly don't claim to be an expert just saying what i know to be true. i was lucky to has a committed 15 year relationship with a man who unfortunately passed away. ten years later i happily found another
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