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What's Monogamy Got to Do With Marriage?

Study Notes and Anecdotes From LGBT People in Committed, Non-Monogamous Partnerships

June 25, 2013

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Kirk Grisham

Kirk

Can you share an example of findings regarding the ways male couples negotiate HIV risk when it comes to outside partners?

Colleen Hoff, principal investigator of the You & Me Study, at San Francisco State University, actually presented at the 2012 International AIDS Conference about how having sex with outside partners, threesomes, was a way for partners to remind themselves and construct boundaries for their relationships but also to negotiate safer sex, because it often involved a conversation and planning.

A lot of times we see in our couples that they have rules or conditions for relationships: "We can have outside partners but you have to use a condom, or we can have outside partners but there's going to be some sort of positioning rule" -- often it reinforces, in a positive way, risk reduction within the couple; but also helps them think about risk reduction outside of the couple.




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Comment by: craig larue (arkansas) Tue., Aug. 20, 2013 at 3:31 pm EDT
It is typical of publications that generate a large percentage of their income from pharmaceutical companies that sell HIV drugs that Olivia Ford is ambivilant about avoiding HIV. The concept of homosexuals avoiding HIV means less advertizing dollars for theBody and less money for articles normalizing HIV as a part of Gay life that should not be avoided or prevented unless one feels an unfashionable need to avoid HIV because of internalized homphobia.
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Comment by: ryan h. (dearborn mi 48124) Wed., Jun. 26, 2013 at 8:16 pm EDT
do not agree. all but a few on these type relationship i know have not worked. for awhile maybe but not long term. adult form committed partnerships. young boys feel the need for multiple guys. i dont know straight couples that this has worked for either.i certainly don't claim to be an expert just saying what i know to be true. i was lucky to has a committed 15 year relationship with a man who unfortunately passed away. ten years later i happily found another
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