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HIV Does Not Define Me

By Maria T. Mejia

May 28, 2013

Maria T. Mejia

Well, I was told by someone who made a comment on my pic and my personal Facebook profile (which is at left) that although they admired my work and spirit, I shouldn't make HIV so "Fashionista." He went on to tell me that HIV/AIDS is something very serious and a matter of life and death. Well, I have been living with HIV since I was a teen ... got infected at 16 in 1989 and diagnosed in 1991. I know what living with HIV is, and I for damn sure know I am more than this virus!

Do people really expect people living with HIV/AIDS to look sick and to be suicidal and depressed? Well, NO!! I refuse to be a victim!! I am a survivor. I am just a normal human being who is PASSIONATE about HIV education and prevention!!! But this does not mean that I am not going to take care of myself, my appearance, my spirit, have fun, live life to the fullest and try to be as happy as I can be. Does this person really expect us to be all down on ourselves with an "Oh, poor me" attitude? NO! I do not choose to live this way!! Please, be the happiest you can be! You can live with HIV or any other trial or struggle and still make the best out of a negative situation! In life we choose two paths: We take the path of life, love and success (with all the trials and struggles); or we can choose to live like we are dead! So yes, I am in love, I have my career, I try to be the best human being I can be, I love to help others, I love to travel, eat, shop, work out, and I love fashion -- pretty much a normal woman who is living with HIV and made it to 40 ... but, DOES NOT LET HIV DEFINE WHO SHE IS!

Love and light,
Maria Mejia

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