Just*in Time: Taking Your HIV Medication
By Justin B. Terry-Smith
September 26, 2012
With + love,
Dear HIV-Negative Woman,
Okay, there are so many things that I could tell you. But in my opinion he sounds like he is depressed. After finding out that I was HIV positive the same thing happened to me. I started going out without my friends and I started doing a lot of things that I wouldn't normally do. I started partying late, drinking a lot and doing drugs.
Then I met someone who helped me. He looked at my apartment, looked at me and held me. He told me, "Let it out," and then I cried. Now I'm not saying that you should do this with David but what I will say is that, if you really want to help you have to love him, and, now that the simple part is out of the way, check him! It is time to not let him get away with anything. Evaluate the situation and try to be there for him. He might want to go into counseling as well. Sometimes we can admit things to strangers more easily than we can admit things to friends and family. HIV is a tough cookie to swallow -- when some of us are diagnosed we become instantly depressed and HIV feeds on that depression. We should never go down without a fight. I say this because I most definitely will not and neither should David. Try to pull him out of his rut. Love him and then show him.
Now, let's talk about you wanting to stop taking your meds. It's your choice, but be aware of the consequences. You're going to leave yourself open to more infections because HIV disrupts your immune system and the meds that you're taking are not only helping to stop HIV from becoming unmanageable they are also helping your body to keep fighting against other infections. Like cancer. Your body fights off cancer cells every day; when someone has HIV the body starts concentrating on HIV but has to have enough T cells to fight against the cancer as well.
Analyze why you wish to stop taking meds. My friend Joshua just died on the 19th of March because he stopped taking his meds. He got sick and he passed away. His name goes on a list of so many others that I have known and I'm only thirty-two.
All in all, stay on your meds.
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Justin B. Terry-Smith
Justin B. Terry-Smith, M.P.H., may be one of the most public African Americans living with HIV: He has his own website, and he's even on YouTube. He is a noted HIV and gay civil rights activist and the creator of "Justin's HIV Journal," a popular blog in which he shares his trials and tribulations of living with HIV. A U.S. Air Force veteran, Justin resides in Laurel, Maryland, with his husband, Dr. Philip Terry-Smith, and their son, Lundyn. Presently, Justin is working toward earning his doctorate in public health. He welcomes your questions.
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