By Brooke Davidoff; Feb. 18, 2011
Having Brooke Davidoff join the bloggers at TheBody.com was one of our top stories from last year, and she has remained a popular voice on the site in 2011. In this entry, she writes with raw honesty about the fear of infecting her husband:
We had sex; not a big deal. We're married. We're supposed to have sex. It wasn't the first time and it won't be the last time.
But he wasn't supposed to get sick the day after. He was throwing up and had a fever that came out of nowhere.
Was it because of me? Is he no longer HIV negative?
Although some commenters called into question Brooke and her husband's decision not to use condoms, most were from other HIVers in magnetic relationships who reminded her -- as she'd reminded them -- that her fears are understandable and she isn't alone.
By Kellee Terrell; May 20, 2011
Early this year, former IMF chief Dominique Strauss-Kahn came under investigation for allegedly sexually assaulting a maid at a New York City hotel. The story was irresistible to the tabloids from the very start, so it's no shock that it got even worse when HIV entered the mix. The New York Post reported that Strauss-Kahn's accuser lived in an apartment building that rents only to adults living with HIV. In an editorial responding to the paper, Kellee Terrell wrote:
Look, I am fully aware that Strauss-Kahn's guilt is to be determined by a jury of his peers, so I shouldn't judge him, nor should the paper. But to paint him as a victim and try to out her supposed HIV status is just plain wrong.
What does her alleged HIV status have to do with this case? Absolutely nothing. And if she is HIV positive, which has not been confirmed, how is it any of our business? It's not.
Kellee also pointed out to readers that the Post was not only reinforcing HIV stigma, it was placing the blame for the assault on the rape victim -- something that many other media pieces also do, especially if the victim is a woman of color.
Runners-Up, aka "Honorabuzz Mentions"
- The Rising HIV Rates Among Young Women and Girls of Color: What's Going On?
Part One and Part Two
This round-table discussion in our Women's Resource Center brought together experts to discuss the epidemic among women of color in the U.S.
- The Search for the Cure Heats Up!
Part One, Part Two and Part Three
In this series of blog entries, the late, great Dr. Bob tackled the issue of what's being done to find an HIV cure and why that's so hard to do.
- Five Things About HIV They're Not Telling
In this video, Mark S. King lets viewers in on some important information even most HIVers don't know
- 10 Questions to Ask Yourself Before You Begin HIV Treatment
This slideshow from our brand new Resource Center on Starting HIV Treatment helped HIVers decide if they're ready to take the plunge into starting medications.
- Dear will.i.am: It Isn't Tacky for Women to Have Condoms; It's Called Being Empowered
In another important editorial, Kellee Terrell tackled the tricky issue of women and condom negotiation.
- Stigma Within Our Own HIV Community
Blogger Maria T. Mejia wrote about the problem of HIV stigma when it comes from within the HIV community itself.
- Why Our Youth Desperately Need Condoms
In an entry in TheBody.com's "The Viral Truth" blog, Kellee Terrell responded to a media frenzy over a safer sex program in Philadelphia.
- 10 Harmful Myths About HIV/AIDS
This slideshow written by our associate editor, Warren Tong, reminded readers that the common fears and mistruths about HIV are really nothing to be scared of.
- 10 Common Fears About HIV Transmission
Similarly, this slideshow looked at 10 of the ways you can't get HIV.
- 10 HIV-Positive LGBT Characters We Love
Finally, this piece in our HIV/AIDS Resource Center for Gay Men, written by Olivia Ford and Kellee Terrell, praised some of the most important HIV-positive, LGBT characters in pop culture.
Becky Allen is the site manager for TheBody.com and TheBodyPRO.com.
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