Rae Lewis-Thornton Speaks

I know y'all been waiting on part two of "Dating the Right Reverend," so here you go. You can read part one here.

We left off at the phone call from the other woman. So I couldn't wait to let whoever this heifer was know, there's a NEW woman, so step the hell back. So I said, "Sweetie, he's in the shower right now, I would be glad to take a message." There was silence and I smiled. "Mission accomplished," I thought! She chimed in, "Will you please let him know, (whatever the heck her name was) is on the phone."

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I love this picture. It appeared on the cover of the Washington Post in 1996. When I first started speaking I was hell on wheels. I talked more shit and was rough around the edges, honestly, I was even more than I am now. If you could imagine, LOL. After two hours of being raw, honest and transparent to this group of young people in a summer program in Washington, D.C., this 13 year girl couldn't stop crying. She said no one had ever validated her decision to remain a virgin and that it was hard because ALL of her girlfriends were having sex. But after hearing me lay it out on the line, she knows that it's OK. We had no idea the photographer had captured this special moment between us.

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Being honest with yourself is hard. Especially on those things that are not cute. Those things that seem to nag and tap away at you and leave an ounce of insecurity. If we are honest about it, we all have something. Maybe it stems from childhood or maybe it's something that developed over the years, but we all have that one thing and some of us have more, that just eats away at us and when people start touching on it in some kind of way, we get defensive, we shut down, we cuss and we hide. Your personality type typically determines how you react.

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Last night one of the young ladies I follow on Twitter was tweeting about her relationship. She said, "I'm tired of crying." And y'all know I jumped right in. Yep! I tweeted, "Fuck a man who can't love and treat you the way you should be. If he can't see the value then he don't deserve you!!" Yep, yep, I told her straight up, "When someone shows you who they are, believe them. Don't explain it away, don't make excuses." Believe it!

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I'm counting down to 50 and I'm allowing you to see a side of me that I have never allowed. I have always wanted people to see me at my best, but God laid in my spirit to show you my day to day.

I'm doing this because I want you to really understand my journey. Really understand the miracle of my life. People are always talking about God "curing" me but even with AIDS, I'm a walking miracle, a living miracle.

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I was hoping and even praying that I would get through this 50 day count down to my 50th birthday without being sick; without herpes. But I guess that prayer didn't get answered because I'm only on day 43 and I have 3 herpes lesions right there on my clit. Yep, Yep and it hurts like hell, if this is what hell feels like.

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While hanging out today with my girlfriend Markeeda, I started to think about my friends and support system, so I decided to talk candidly about my support system living with HIV over these last 29 years on today's video blog.

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Nope it's not fun, but rather intrusive. I do it because I believe it's important to use every tool available to educate around HIV/AIDS.

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Today Marks 50 days until I turn 50 years old! I NEVER thought that I would have made it! Like #ForReal #ForReal! I've been living with HIV for 29 years. Just think about it, HIV is only 31 years old. That means that I've lived almost the entire AIDS pandemic with this disease and over half of my life!

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Can we talk? I mean some real talk! I got a lot of freakin stuff to complain about! A lot to be mad about and a lot to fuckin give up on! That's real talk living with HIV/AIDS. Just walk ONE day in my shoes and see for yourself.

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