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Re: Any advice would be helpful
      06/08/12 03:55 AM

I realize this response is coming to you nearly 2 weeks after your boyfriend/partner/significant other has gotten back. I'd be interested in hearing how things are going for you.

In reply to your dilema - what kickers said! I know it's only natural to want to find someone to blame for anything that upsets our orderly lives, but in this case it can be very important to his life for him to find out if he's positive. Whether or not from you. That's not the important thing.

You've just found out you've joined a growing, unwanted group of people who are infected with HIV. Congratulations! I'm sorry! (Unwanted in that the people who are infected will almost always wish they weren't.)

For you and for other people who might come along and read this article in the future - there is absolutely nothing wrong with telling a partner in the presence of a 3rd party. Namely someone who is well educated with some of the intricacies of HIV. This is a complicated disease. You know next to nothing about it. You need to be sitting down with a trained professional to get the basics. As does your boyfriend.

I know more than one discordent couple (one HIV+/one HIV-). They function quite well, because they love and care for one another. I hope that's the case with you.

In any case I would strongly recommend an HIV support group. For both of you to attend. Check with your doctor's office when you go to be seen.

Breath. Slowly. In and out. In and out. I hope your boyfriend isn't so shallow to drop you just because you've tested HIV+. You will get through the beginning of this. There is an extremely long road you're going to have to travel. HIV is a long-term, managable disease. With proper medical care you may not progress to a status of AIDS for many years if ever. If you take care of yourself and follow your doctor's (and his staff's) advice you can expect to live a normal life span.

I hope it's a joyous life!

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* Any advice would be helpful anton2307 05/25/12 09:58 PM
. * Re: Any advice would be helpful thebird1959   06/25/12 01:28 AM
. * Re: Any advice would be helpful iam1   06/08/12 03:55 AM
. * Re: Any advice would be helpful brooklynbaseball   06/07/12 08:35 PM
. * Re: Any advice would be helpful tcocoa   06/10/12 01:54 AM
. * Re: Any advice would be helpful DJones   06/07/12 05:18 PM
. * Re: Any advice would be helpful PinupBoy   06/01/12 09:56 AM
. * Re: Any advice would be helpful riverprincessModerator   06/01/12 12:41 PM
. * Re: Any advice would be helpful kicker   05/26/12 12:40 AM

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