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Re: condoms
      11/11/13 05:44 PM

Well the discussion first lies with your bf and you, if he is comfortable with the risk and you are "undetectable" then that is of your own making. Being undetectable though only means your VL is at an extreme low level in your body but does not mean there is zero risk.

Being HIV+ comes with a lot of responsibility on your part, you have to be considerate of your partner at all times. If you love him, don't put him at risk, talk it over about how you feel and just remember how you felt when you first found out you were positive. Was the non-condom intimate feeling worth it (assuming that is how you came to be positive), he might not want that as part of him.

He loves you, for you, HIV or not ... enjoy that aspect of your relationship and forget the condom issue. Protect him, love him and get on with it. You could talk to a therapist to try and break down that "wall" but I think you just have to re-adapt your thinking now that you are positive and know that you have a new "normal" that you have to follow.

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* condoms rowusa1 11/09/13 11:03 PM
. * Re: condoms PozInAmarillo   07/29/14 11:48 PM
. * Re: condoms Ron333   11/19/13 01:31 PM
. * Re: condoms 1hotjamie4u   11/15/13 02:22 AM
. * Re: condoms RayW   11/14/13 08:27 PM
. * Re: condoms anotherday   11/16/13 02:37 AM
. * Re: condoms anotherday   11/11/13 05:44 PM
. * Re: condoms riverprincessModerator   11/20/13 02:24 PM
. * Re: condoms DJlavis   12/05/13 03:50 AM
. * Re: condoms Angel_Ronnie   11/14/13 10:35 AM

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