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Re: The one I love is HIV - !
      05/01/13 03:51 PM

May I make an observation and you can do with it what you will. I am very good at picking up on patterns of behavior more than the emotional aspect of a certain one.

You said some key words in your post(s) that displayed a common pattern that people exhibit when given bad news. First one being you are in a rush and want quick and easy answers to your school situation. Second you said, "I could not love with this."

It is common for people to try to change things when they receive some traumatizing news and to do it in a hurry. It wouldn't surprise me if you thought something along the lines that this other guy will be the only guy to ever love you again. I would question his motives and how long you have known him and for how long. A month or two isn't really long enough to uproot yourself and go to a place you know nothing about and know no one else. What happens if you get there and he wants something you are not ready for? How will he respond? Who will help you if he decides that he really doesn't want the relationship or you find that you don't?

I would suggest finding a therapist you can talk to and that can help you look at the reasons rationally as to why you feel so rushed. After something so shattering that a HIV diagnosis can be for some people it really is best to take a deep breath and try not to change to much all at once. You can't run from yourself or being HIV+.

Just an observation do with it what you want.

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* The one I love is HIV - ! hivstudent 05/01/13 02:46 PM
. * Re: The one I love is HIV - ! mathguy   06/01/13 05:07 AM
. * Re: The one I love is HIV - ! AboutTimex   05/21/13 12:34 AM
. * Re: The one I love is HIV - ! kicker   05/01/13 03:51 PM

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