Well you wanted a story, I'll give you mine. Been poz for over 10 yrs. When I got diagnosed I was with my boyfriend (negative) who later married me, we got divorced two years ago. Since then dating has been very difficult. I have disclosed as well as I have not. If is just a night of fun, why bother if we play safe with condoms. But if I believe there can be something then I disclose. Well, a couple of months ago I met someone and had protected sex, I thought he would never call again since he lives in another state but he did. We have seen each other a couple more times. He comes to my area once a moth. On the second occasion we were together we had unprotected sex at the beach in the ocean. I knew it was wrong but I let my self go, it had been ages since I had done it in the ocean and had been wanting to do it with my poz boyfriend but he never wants to go to the beach. I feel really bad especially since now I really like this guy, we are basically lovers and I don't think something serious will develop but the more I know him the more I like him and the deeper in this mess I feel. We have continued to use condoms but still I know I'm robbing him of his choice. For now only time will tell. We had sex last week and won't see each other for another month (if we actually see each other). So, I'm just trying to go with the flow, if we do develop feelings or if he presses on condom use I'll tell him but for now I'll just keep going, even though I don't like it. In your case, since it is a serious relationship you should really tell her especially before her move. Please do it for your sake and hers. The sooner the better. Living a lie is no fun..