I am also poz....my husband knew he was when we began seeing each other...played the least get tested to get a marrage license...then the whole....I didnt know...only to find out he had known for longer than 10 yrs...he never gave me the chance to make the choice...I have been poz for over 15 yrs...almost dies twice now...married for the same...wasnt strong enough to be a single mother again with hiv...always left to wonder why he never loved me enough to protect me...please dont do this to her...please!