Why don't you just admit it, you're looking for someone, anyone, to justify/validate your actions. You say you want statistics or a "case history" to prove you right. Well, sure there are cases out there where transmission did NOT occur in the situation such as you have described. But that does not justify your reckless behavior.
As for the 1 in 900 statistic; do you understand statistics? That number means you might have sex 899 before you cause infection with act number 900. IT ALSO MEANS YOU CAN CAUSE INFECTION ON ACT NUMBER 1 AND THEN NOT CAUSE IT IN THE NEXT 899. Or that you will cause two infections and the next (lucky) guy doesn't cause it in 1800 acts.
I know something about basing a relationship on a lie. I've been married 38 years. I am bisexual, but never told my wife.....couldn't bring myself to tell her that I was attracted to men, wasn't accepted in the 70's. Then I got infected and had no choice but to tell her everything. We got through it because we do indeed love each other. I wish I had been honest with her 40 years ago and let her make her own decision. Hopefully, she would have made the same one she did when I finally was honest with her. BUT IT SHOULD HAVE BEEN HER CHOICE TO MAKE 40 YEARS AGO.
Yeah, I HATE using condoms. I too have trouble maintaining an erection with them. But I would hate even more if she were to be infected by my selfishness.
Edited by Rich317 (02/18/12 03:03 PM)