You really should tell her if you truly love her like you say you do. Let me just tell you this: when my ex-husband and I first married I trusted his word and stopped using condoms. I always used them before for my protection. Well he became ill and was hospitalized and continued to hide his status from me. Finally after he was released from the hospital I saw that he was HIV+. I asked him why didn't he tell me the truth in the beginning, he said, he knew 5yrs. before we got together and he wanted to make sure noone else would ever want me. Well the only thing he was right about was that I became HIV+ but that did not stop other men from being with me. I started taking meds right away so that I wouldn't get sick. After being on meds for 2 months, I became undetectable and my cd4 count has been around 900-1247 since October 1999. I made a promise not only to myself but to God to always be right up front and honest with someone that was interested in being with me. I've had very positive feedback. They always tell me thank you for being so honest and caring about them and their health. There has been occasions were my ex-boyfriend chose not to use the condom and even after we had been together for 3 years he is still HIV-. So please give her a fair chance and voice/choice in the matter of her health and life. Because what you are doing now is not love, its being selfish, childish, reckless and criminal by not disclosing. The very thing you're trying to hold onto you are going to lose. If you need someone to talk to more about this, you can pm me if you like. Well for now best wishes and may God touch your heart to open up and be honest with her.
"I have HIV, HIV does not have me!!!"