I was that man! Same secret revealed through chronic illnesses not intervention. I saw what pain my disease brought to a family. The looks of shock, horror, fear will haunt me until I die.
My wife is uninfected. The miracle is that she remains with me, provides comfort and care. We have grown closer, more affectionate with each other.
Of my three adult children two have embraced me with compassion, forgiveness and love. One remains silent, distant.
Like me, your father is now free of the power of fear, guilt, shame... The truth is known. This fact alone contributes to humility, acceptance. Let us hope and pray it is a foundation on which he recovers, becomes medically adherent, and learns to live one day at a time.