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Re: I need some help understanding!
      02/16/09 04:20 PM

Sorry to read about your dilemma.

This is going to have to be very generalised, because there is no indication of what country you are in.

Let's be honest here: his lifestyle certainly isn't going to be helping. That said, how much damage it is doing isn't really quantifiable either.

In many ways, the worst aspect of HIV today is what the knowledge of the fact that you are HIV can do to your mind, attitude to life and self-respect. Going off the rails for a while after a diagnosis isn't at all unusual; but, if six months after diagnosis he still off the rails, it sounds like he needs the help of some sort of counsellor who is experienced in HIV. A local ASO (AIDS Service Organization) can probably help locate one .. although it may be worth while holding fire for a few weeks, because the fact that he is now talking to you as a loved one could be a sign that he is starting to come to terms with his status and is getting his head around things.

Of more immediate concern is the fact that you mention that he has an independent heart problem. Not only is his lifestyle clearly not doing much for that; but, over time, HIV in itself is known to be as big a risk factor to heart disease as smoking, diabetes, a sedentary lifestyle or an unhealthy diet - so I would be worried that he is stacking avoidable risk factors up where he could really do without them.

There's probably no God. Now stop worrying and enjoy your life.

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* I need some help understanding! proxywife 02/16/09 02:43 PM
. * Re: I need some help understanding! sbev1981   03/22/09 04:14 PM
. * Re: I need some help understanding! dfwjeep   02/19/09 02:56 PM
. * Re: I need some help understanding! sick_of_fuckwits   02/16/09 04:20 PM
. * Re: I need some help understanding! sick_of_fuckwits   02/19/09 01:22 PM
. * Re: I need some help understanding! Hans   02/19/09 04:57 AM
. * Re: I need some help understanding! sick_of_fuckwits   02/19/09 07:38 AM

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