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Sexual problems for positive boyfriend and I
      08/20/08 10:29 PM

So, I've posted on here before but I hope this is the right area to post this. I am going crazy here and need some help. My boyfriend and I are having issues because he is unable to ejaculate when we have sex. In the 2+ years since he was diagnosed, I am the only woman who has been able to help him do so. But when I have, it's been rare. I would say maybe 20 times since we've been together for a year. He says it's because of the fact that he has back problems from being a professional athlete and blames it on his back problems. Then he sometimes says it's because he thinks of me being with the guy I was with when we broke up before and he can't get that out of his mind. He gets so upset and says he's not a real man and he gets SO frustrated when he can't. He gets so close and then it just goes away but there is so much pressure on me to make him ejaculate and as much as I want to, I feel like it's out of my hands. I've tried to search the net for answers. Depending on what I read, depends on what I think the problem might be. He said that he feels numb, like he feels little sensation most of the time. An article on TheBody states it could be due to meds (he's on Kaletra and Truvada) or it could be a psychological thing due to his HIV status. I also noticed a lot of people talking about Viagra and Androgel. He has used Viagra since I've been with him and I've seen Androgel in his house but dont think he has used with me. Obviously if it worked, he'd use it and I would know it. Does anyone else have this issue? I dont know what to do because we have a very active sex life and he says he's attracted to me but I feel like this is causing problems for us. Please someone help me!

Also......thank you so much to all those of you who have offered so much wonderful advice. I hope that should I ever be diagnosed with an illness that there is a community so open-minded and caring as the HIV/AIDS community.

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