I am a woman who was married to someone else. A friend of mine was diagnosed with HIV in 2002. I was interested in him before, things didn't work out as I wanted them to and I married another man. Well, after my friend was diagnosed, I left the man I was married to;to be with my friend who I have now been married to for a while. Things are good, I am negative. I used to get tested every 2 months(of course we use protection). But, It has been 6 years now and I am still Negative and he of course positive. You can have a healthy relationship and remain safe and unifected. I just wish that more people believed that. I have had a few people close to me die from the disease including my children's grandmother, and a best friends mom( all who caught it a different way) My husband caught it from the 3rd woman that he had ever slept with. That didn't seem to fair to me because I know alot of people in my area who are sleeping around and sharing neddles, but it happened to a great person. I love him, I am sure that you will find the strength to be there and do what you believe is the right thing. I will pray for you and hope that you can be stong. God Bless.