in love with a hiv+ woman - TheBody.com's Bulletin Boards

This is the first time i have posted on this site, but i have read quite a few posts and have found them extremely helpful in understanding. I am madly in love with and have been in a relationship for about 10 months with a woman who has HIV . (She was diagnosed about a year and a half). Though she did not tell me that she was + until after we had had sex several times(protected), my feelings for her did not change once she told me. i love her more than ever and it has been extremely difficult because i cant discuss it with anyone (though we have discussed it together)as i know that the commom perception would be -are you insane! to say i am not scared would be a lie, but it is not dying i am afraid of, people die everyday and i have just as likely a chance of getting hit by a car while crossing the road here (i dont live in the states) as anything else. what scares me is the not knowing. But i am still fully commited to her and us. am i feaking nuts? i dont think i am. sorry that i am rambling a bit. another issue which is important is that she might want to have a child. i think that this is not necessarily something that will happen but people have told here that with meds it is 99% that the child will be find. i personally think that this is just not right, as no one has the right to possibly subject someone else to this disease. consenting adults is one thing, but what right do we have to bring a child into this world who may or may not be positive and will lose one or both of their parents before they are 15 in all likeleyhood? i just dont know. i am just looking for some input or thoughts as i dont have anyone to talk to about this . thank you for whatever you give.

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