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supporting my spouse
      04/22/06 02:19 AM

my husband has hiv. we found out about a year ago. just starting going to the dr a couple of months ago and its becoming more of a reality. (i'm neg). he has tested pos for the latent tb so he has to take that drug. numbers are all very good and he does not need meds. he wont talk about it much, i tell him that anytime he wants to talk i am here to listen and i do talk about it occassionally and never in a negative way or during an argument. occassionally he says i think i'm going to die or i'm dying and i'll say what, why do u think that? and he says just kidding but i know he's serious. i know he thinks about it because he'll ask a random question about it just out of the blue. i told him we can go talk to the caseworker at the aids org and he never said anything. we have had sex once in the last year and now when i try to initiate something he pushes me away. other than kissing. i asked him why he does not feel like having sex and he said every since the diagnosis he just doesnt feel the desire (even though i can tell he is aroused sometimes when we cuddle). he does kiss me and hug me so i am glad for that. but its difficult that he does not want to be intimate. i try to tell myself that its not because he isnt attracted to me but i still miss the special connection and worry he doesnt love me even though i know he does. has anyone else had similar lack of intimacy probs or suggestions? he's a guys guy and doesnt talk about his problems too much. the other thing i'm worried he's not talking about is about having kids some day. i cant carry children (but have healthy ovaries) the plan was always to go thru a surrogate-in vitro- but now not sure if it is possible now with the hiv. anyone have any references for me? i guess i should get a counselor or something

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